If you can see through your anger, sadness, or whatever other emotions you’re having that led you to consider divorce, and still feel respect for your spouse, then your marriage is definitely worth saving. Respect is cited by psychologists as the most crucial element in a good marriage.
Besides, what percentage of marriages survive infidelity?
Simply so, how can I save my marriage after infidelity and lying?
- Never lie to your spouse.
- Communicate clearly at all times.
- Accept the fact that your spouse wants to know your schedule in great detail.
- Talk with your spouse every day from work or if one of you is out of town.
- Always be on time.
- Take the time to reassure your spouse if he or she feels insecure.
Why do people cheat on people they love?
Why do people cheat on their partners: Broken trust
On a deep level, they might actually feel that they‘d rather seek love and affection outside of the relationship because it will help them to detach from the relationship, and therefore serve as a sense of self protection.
Between one in four to five Americans have an affair in their lifetime. Among men, 68% feel guilty after having an affair. Even if they haven’t confessed the affair, most cheating husbands will feel guilty and express that guilt in their behavior.
But anyone who thinks that affairs are no big deal if the marriage doesn’t end should stop kidding himself. The pain can last a lifetime. It can forever change how one feels about one’s partner.”
Upwards of 40% of married couples are impacted by infidelity,1? and despite the high percentage, most people — even those who stray — will say that cheating is wrong.
But psychologists say it can be done, even in the most dire situations. … While psychologists are quick to agree that not all marriages are made to last forever, and certainly some should be disabled after an affair, there are many that can be repaired post-infidelity if both partners are willing to put in the work.
So-called “fatal attraction” is another reason why love affairs end. In fatal attraction, a quality that one initially finds attractive in a lover is the same quality that sinks the relationship. For example, we may fall for a person’s delightful sense of humor, but then come to see it as flakiness.
In the U.S., about 40 percent of marriages at some point will be shaken by an extramarital affair. Not only can it destroy a marriage, it can hurt children and parent-child relationships. The good news is that many marriages survive, and can even become stronger.
Rebuilding trust when you’ve hurt someone
- Consider why you did it. Before you embark on the process of rebuilding trust, you’ll first want to check in with yourself to understand why you did it. …
- Apologize sincerely. …
- Give your partner time. …
- Let their needs guide you. …
- Commit to clear communication.
- Decide to forgive or to be forgiven. Make a conscious decision to love by trying to let go of the past. …
- Be open to self-growth and improvement. You can’t repair broken trust with just promises and statements of forgiveness. …
- Be aware of your innermost feelings and share your thoughts. …
- Want it to work.