Superficialmente, pode parecer que as mulheres são supervalorizadas e podem parecer que são muito confiantes e seguras de si mesmas.
Tudo que uma mulher precisa fazer hoje em dia é postar uma selfie no Facebook e seus amigos e familiares vão gostar disso e dizer que ela é bonita, ou ela pode postar no Instagram e vários caras aleatórios vão dizer: “Uau, você é tão linda. Posso te levar para sair algum dia? Você é a garota dos meus sonhos,” e assim por diante.
No entanto, se você é um dos homens que já dormiu com mulheres atraentes, sabe que quase todos eles têm inseguranças quanto à aparência de uma forma ou de outra.
Por exemplo: Uma garota pode ficar insegura sobre sua testa ser tão grande em comparação com outras mulheres.
Outra garota pode ficar insegura sobre o tamanho de seus seios porque um dos caras com quem ela estava ou com quem ela realmente gostava comentou sobre o fato de que ele gostava de seios menores.
Uma mulher pode sentir que tem um pouco a aparência do tipo Jane em comparação com algumas das outras mulheres que ela viu por aí.
Ela não se sente como se tivesse uma aparência marcante e não é realmente nada especial.
Outra garota pode estar insegura sobre seu cabelo encaracolado e um cara de quem ela realmente gostou pode ter comentado sobre o fato de que ele gosta de cabelos lisos, então ela pode ficar preocupada se ela encontrar um cara que ele ainda não gostará de seu cabelo encaracolado na superfície, ela vai parecer que tem tudo sob controle.
Ela parecerá confiante e segura de si mesma e como se nunca tivesse nenhuma insegurança.
Outra garota pode estar insegura sobre seu cabelo ruivo.
Ela pode ter sido chamada de ruiva na escola e um cara pode ter terminado com ela e dito a ela que ele realmente não gosta de seu cabelo ruivo e assim por diante.
Ela também deve ter notado que seus amigos que são loiros ou morenos recebem mais atenção do tipo de cara que ela realmente se sente atraída.
Outra garota pode ficar insegura com seu nariz e pensar que é muito grande.
Ela pode ter um amigo que tem um nariz menor e sempre parece receber mais atenção dos rapazes do que ela.
Ela também pode ter sido provocada na escola por causa de seu nariz grande.
Outra garota pode estar insegura sobre sua pele.
Ela pode ter conhecido um cara de quem realmente gostava, que preferia mulheres com pele muito mais escura do que ela, então ela pode ter uma insegurança por não ser morena o suficiente ou ela pode ter uma insegurança sobre seus lábios não serem grandes o suficiente ou serem muito grandes.
Outra garota pode estar insegura sobre seu cabelo loiro.
Ela pode pensar que as pessoas olham para ela como um pouco loira burra.
Ela pode então tentar agir como se fosse realmente sofisticada e inteligente e tenha tudo sob controle, quando ela realmente não quer ter que agir assim.
Ela só quer ser capaz de relaxar e ser tranquila, mas acaba agindo como se fosse uma mulher sofisticada e moderna que tem tudo junto.
Então, um erro que muitos caras cometem é que eles veem uma mulher que eles acham atraente e então presumem que ela deve pensar que ela é perfeita.
Ela deve se achar muito atraente e difícil de conseguir porque ele está sentindo muita atração por ela.
Ela deve receber muita atenção dos homens.
Ela deve saber que é a garota mais gostosa que existe e ele terá que se esforçar muito para impressioná-la e, com sorte, ter uma chance com ela.
No entanto, quando um cara se mostra assim com uma mulher, ela então começa a pensar: “Bem, sim, talvez eu seja perfeito. Talvez eu seja realmente difícil de conseguir. Talvez eu precise fazer esse cara realmente me impressionar antes de decidir dar a ele meu número de telefone. ”
Ela então começa a jogar duro para conseguir porque o cara deu muito crédito a ela por sua beleza.
A quantidade de atração que ele sente por ela o fez pensar, “Ela é muito especial. Ela é muito bonita. Vou ter muito trabalho para chegar a algum lugar com ela. “
A questão é que, se o cara usasse uma abordagem diferente com ela, onde ele não lhe desse tanto crédito por sua beleza e, em vez disso, a visse como igual a ele, então ela não teria aquela cabeça grande, aquele grande ego onde ela estava pensando, “Sim, sou muito melhor do que esse cara.”
Ele está realmente alimentando o ego dela.
Ele está fazendo com que ela seja difícil de conseguir.
Infelizmente, a maioria dos caras nunca percebe isso e, em vez disso, eles caem no ato que as mulheres representam.
As mulheres atuam muito bem.
Eles passam a vida e agem como se não precisassem de um homem e essencialmente dão a impressão de que diz: “Eu sou uma mulher moderna e independente. Eu sou destemido. Eu sou forte. Eu não preciso de um homem. Eu estou bem sozinha. ”
Então ela vai para casa e chora até dormir porque é solteira e solitária.
Ela então acorda no dia seguinte e é a mesma coisa mais uma vez, “Eu sou uma mulher moderna independente. Eu não preciso de um homem. Eu sou poderoso. Eu sou forte. Eu sou destemido.”
Então ela vai para casa e está solteira. Ela está solitária.
Ela se olha no espelho e diz: “É o meu nariz, não é? Eu gostaria de não ter um nariz tão grande. São meus seios. Eles são muito grandes ou muito pequenos. São minhas coxas. Caras não gostam das minhas coxas ou é minha bunda. Preciso fazer mais agachamentos. Eu preciso ter uma bunda mais arredondada, então os caras vão gostar de mim. ”
Então ela vai dormir, acorda de manhã e é o mesmo ato novamente.
Ela caminha pela vida agindo como se tivesse tudo sob controle.
Ela não precisa de um homem.
Ela não se importa e a maioria dos caras acredita nela.
Eles olham para ela, sentem-se atraídos por ela, veem que ela não se interessa por garotos ou nem mesmo tenta chegar a lugar nenhum com garotos e pensam: “Uau, ela é muito especial. Eu teria que tentar muito para ter uma chance com ela. “
O que esses caras não sabem é que na maioria dos casos, para a maioria das mulheres, eles são fáceis de atrair e pegar.
É por isso que você verá muitas mulheres entrando e saindo de relacionamentos até os 30 anos e ainda não terão encontrado o cara certo para elas.
É porque atrair e conquistar mulheres é na verdade uma coisa muito simples e básica de se fazer na maioria dos casos, com a maioria das mulheres.
Tudo o que você precisa fazer é criar uma faísca de atração quando começar a falar com ela e então ter a coragem e o know-how para pegar um número de telefone ou um beijo e marcar um encontro.
Existem algumas mulheres por aí que são exigentes e difíceis de conseguir.
Isso é verdade, mas a maioria das mulheres é fácil de atrair e pegar.
Eles fingem que não precisam de um homem e fingem que têm alto valor, quando na verdade a maioria deles são inseguros e se você é um homem que já dormiu com mulheres atraentes, você sabe disso.
Você saberá que com sua atraente ex-namorada, ou uma mulher atraente com quem você estava dormindo por um tempo, ela tinha inseguranças quanto à sua aparência.
Ela não achava que era perfeita.
Ela era insegura sobre certas coisas sobre sua aparência e queria ter características que fossem iguais às de outras mulheres.
Ela se comparou a outras mulheres e disse: “Eu gostaria de ter esse tipo de nariz. Eu gostaria de ter esse tipo de bunda. Eu gostaria de ter quadris como os dela. Eu gostaria de ter um cabelo como o dela. Eu gostaria de ter olhos assim, ” e assim por diante.
Ela não se sentia a mulher mais bonita do mundo.
No entanto, se você olhar para a maneira como as mulheres agem, elas agem como se estivessem juntas.
Eles agem como se pensassem que são a mulher mais bonita do mundo e você teria muita sorte de ter uma chance com eles, quando na verdade a maioria deles é fácil de atrair e pegar.
Você verá que quando vir outros caras com mulheres atraentes e o cara nem mesmo parece tão bom e você pode pensar consigo mesmo, “O que ela está fazendo com ele? Ela é muito mais atraente do que ele. ”
Uma das razões pelas quais isso é verdade é que, para a maioria das mulheres, você pode atraí-las por outras razões além da aparência.
Não precisa ser sobre sua aparência.
Existem algumas mulheres por aí que só aceitam um cara realmente bonito ou um cara rico.
Isso é verdade, mas a maioria das mulheres, incluindo mulheres que você considera bonitas e lindas e, em alguns casos, talvez até perfeitas, elas aceitam um cara que não é tão bonito quanto elas.
Eles aceitarão um cara que está confiante quando fala com ela.
Ele é capaz de fazê-la rir.
Ele é um pouco charmoso e carismático ao falar com ela e, como resultado, ele cria uma centelha de atração dentro dela e a constrói enquanto fala com ela.
Então, ele tem a coragem e o know-how para conseguir um número de telefone, um beijo, sexo, namoro e um relacionamento.
Então, não dê tanto crédito às mulheres por sua aparência a ponto de você achar que não é bom o suficiente.
As mulheres não se dão muito crédito por sua aparência e você também não deveria.
Você deve se sentir digno dos tipos de mulheres que acha atraentes.
Você deve então interagir com eles, fazer com que se sintam atraídos por você e obter um número de telefone, beijo, sexo, namoro e um relacionamento se você quiser também.
Ok, espero que você tenha gostado deste vídeo e aprendido algo com ele.
Se você quiser saber mais, recomendo que leia meu e-book, The Flow, ou ouça a versão do audiolivro, The Flow em áudio.
Ao ler ou ouvir The Flow, você aprenderá exatamente o que dizer e fazer para iniciar conversas com mulheres, fazê-las se sentirem atraídas por você, desenvolver essa atração com muita rapidez e facilidade e, em seguida, obter um número de telefone, beijo, sexo , namore e em um relacionamento, se você também quiser.
Não dê tanto crédito às mulheres por sua aparência
Um último ponto que quero fazer para você neste vídeo, é apontar outra razão pela qual você não deve dar tanto crédito às mulheres por sua aparência.
Se você dá muito crédito às mulheres por sua aparência e acha que elas são mais atraentes do que você, isso vai aparecer mesmo se você tentar esconder.
A questão é, o que você pensa e sente por dentro, sai do lado de fora através de sua linguagem corporal, seu comportamento, sua vibração e seu estilo de conversação.
O que você notará de agora em diante é que os caras que não dão tanto crédito às mulheres por sua aparência são os caras que são confiantes e relaxados perto das mulheres.
Eles também tendem a ser os caras que as mulheres tentam impressionar e ganhar validação.
Eles querem ser vistos como atraentes aos olhos daquele cara.
Por outro lado, os caras que dão muito crédito às mulheres por sua aparência, são os caras que acabam se sentindo nervosos e inseguros com as mulheres.
Um cara assim vai acabar agindo como uma versão completamente diferente de si mesmo com base em sua insegurança e dúvida.
Ele então vai para casa mais tarde e pensa, “Por que eu estava sendo assim? Por que eu simplesmente não relaxei? Por que eu disse esse tipo de coisa para tentar impressioná-la? Acabei parecendo um idiota ” e assim por diante.
Ele vai se culpar porque dá muito crédito às mulheres por serem atraentes.
Ele acha que as mulheres são melhores do que ele quando se sente atraído por elas.
Ele sente que não é bom o suficiente, quando na verdade ele é.
Se ele quiser alguma prova disso, tudo o que ele precisa fazer é olhar para os tipos de caras que ele vê com mulheres atraentes.
Às vezes, com certeza, o cara com uma mulher atraente vai ser bonito, ele vai ser rico e assim por diante, mas na maioria das vezes, a maioria dos caras que você vê com mulheres atraentes são apenas caras normais.
Eles não são nada de especial.
A questão é que você provavelmente é um cara melhor do que a maioria dos caras que têm uma mulher atraente, se não todas.
Portanto, pare de dar tanto crédito às mulheres.
Pare de pensar que você não é bom o suficiente.
Você é bom o suficiente.
Quando em um relacionamento, como você pode fazer uma mulher querer te tratar bem, ser boa com você, ser atenciosa, ter carinho, ser amorosa, ser atenciosa e assim por diante?
Como você pode ativar efetivamente o que eu chamo, The Good Girl Switch em sua mente, onde ela adora a sensação que tem quando é boa para você?
Uma maneira de fazer isso é ser verdadeiramente independente emocionalmente.
É aqui que você não precisa do apoio emocional ou da atenção dela.
O motivo pelo qual isso funciona é que, para as mulheres, há uma grande diferença entre estar em um relacionamento com um cara que precisa de apoio emocional para se sentir bem consigo mesmo e se sentir bem, em comparação com estar em um relacionamento com um cara que não precisa Não preciso de apoio emocional dela e nem mesmo precisa de sua atenção.
Como resultado dele ser assim, ela quer se sentir necessária na vida dele.
Ela quer se sentir importante na vida dele.
Ela quer ser uma boa garota para ele porque ele é claramente um homem que tem tudo sob controle.
Ele não é como um cara emocionalmente carente que precisa de um tapinha nas costas ou de um abraço para se sentir melhor consigo mesmo.
Ele já se sente bem e, como resultado, ela sente que precisa fazer algo para se sentir necessária e importante na vida dele.
Então, qual é um exemplo de como isso funciona?
Bem, imagine que um homem emocionalmente carente voltasse do trabalho para casa, teve um dia péssimo no trabalho e voltou para casa e se encontrou com sua namorada ou esposa.
Ele então começa a dizer: “Sim, eu tive um dia realmente ruim no trabalho hoje. Oh, meu chefe está sendo um pé no saco. Então, eu realmente preciso de um abraço. Venha aqui querida ” e então ele quer falar sobre seu dia ruim.
Ele quer que ela ouça e essencialmente lhe dê um tapinha nas costas e diga que tudo vai ficar bem.
Agora, compare isso a um homem emocionalmente independente que teve um dia ruim no trabalho.
Ele chega em casa e sua mulher lhe pergunta, “Como foi o trabalho hoje?” e ele diz, “Bem, foi um dia muito ruim no trabalho hoje, mas você sabe, você tem aqueles dias” de uma forma que sugere que ele não precisa mais falar sobre isso.
É quase certo que ela desejará saber mais sobre o que tornou o dia ruim, ou pode não perguntar mais nada, porque pode saber que ele cuidou de suas coisas.
Ele não precisa que ela lhe dê tapinhas nas costas, dizendo que tudo vai ficar bem, tentando motivá-lo e encorajá-lo a continuar caminhando e seguir em frente na vida e dizer-lhe que tudo vai ficar bem.
No entanto, na maioria dos casos, quando um homem é emocionalmente independente, sua mulher vai querer saber mais.
Ela vai querer se sentir necessária em sua vida.
Ela vai querer tentar ajudar e estar lá e dar a ele amor e atenção e assim por diante.
Ela vai querer se sentir necessária e importante na vida dele, então ela pode perguntar a ele, “Oh, o que aconteceu, querida? Por que foi um dia horrível? ”
Ele pode responder a essa pergunta de muitas maneiras diferentes.
Ele pode brincar com ela e transformar isso em algo para rir, para que eles não tenham que se aprofundar no dia horrível com o qual ele realmente não se importa.
Ele pode deixá-la ver que está tudo resolvido e já está pensando em como conseguir uma promoção no trabalho, ou sair desse emprego e entrar em outro.
Então, ele tem suas coisas classificadas.
Ele não precisa que ela se envolva muito em sua vida, mas também pode se abrir e falar sobre o dia ruim, enquanto a deixa ver que ele está cuidando disso e que está tudo bem.
Então, com o exemplo de brincar com ela e transformar isso em algo para rir, quando ela perguntou a ele, “Então, o que tornou o dia péssimo? O que aconteceu?”, ele pode brincar e dizer algo como, “Bem, foi um dia horrível porque … você não estava lá.”
Ele pode então rir, fazer cócegas, dar um abraço e eles podem rir juntos e depois continuar com o resto da noite juntos.
Como alternativa, se ele quisesse responder à pergunta e dar a ela mais detalhes, não há nada de errado com isso.
Não é emocionalmente necessário falar sobre o que aconteceu no seu dia, falar sobre algumas emoções e assim por diante.
A diferença é quando um homem necessidades uma mulher para lhe dar esse apoio e se ela não lhe der esse apoio, ele vai se sentir muito triste e para baixo e ela vai ter que ficar dando tapinhas nas costas dele e dizendo que está tudo bem.
Se um homem emocionalmente independente falasse sobre o dia estar sendo péssimo, ele poderia dizer algo assim, “Bem, foi um dia horrível no trabalho, porque já estou sobrecarregado de trabalho e meu chefe veio e me deu outro projeto para trabalhar, além disso, por diante. Então, é como, ‘Qual é, o quão duro você quer me trabalhar?’ Sabe, na verdade estou pensando em talvez conseguir outro emprego ou algo assim porque acho que tenho o tipo de habilidades agora que podem me ajudar a melhorar trabalho. Eu não preciso ficar nesse nível. Posso começar a subir. ”
Ela então pode ver que ele é capaz de cuidar de si mesmo.
Assim como qualquer outro homem no mundo, ele experimenta problemas e desafios e questões, mas um homem emocionalmente independente cuidará da situação sozinho.
Então, quando você é verdadeiramente independente emocionalmente e não precisa do apoio ou atenção de uma mulher, ela quer dar isso a você porque quer se sentir necessária e importante em sua vida.
Como resultado de ser assim, você está fazendo uma das coisas que ativam o que eu chamo The Good Girl Switch na mente de uma mulher, onde ela naturalmente quer ser uma boa garota para você.
Ela te trata bem.
Ela se preocupa com você.
Ela é atenciosa e te ama e quer o melhor para você.
Infelizmente, muitos caras não aprendem o que você aprendeu até agora neste vídeo e, como resultado, quando percebem que sua mulher está perdendo o interesse no relacionamento e não sendo mais tão atenciosa ou interessada e essencialmente se interessando mais por ela telefone, seus amigos, seus estudos ou seu trabalho do que ele, ele muitas vezes irá por um dos seguintes caminhos que não funcionam.
Ele pode ficar com raiva dela e começar a discutir com ela sobre o fato de que ela mudou.
Ele pode começar a ficar de mau humor, reclamar e dizer que ela o está deixando chateado porque não está dando a ele a atenção e o amor que ele deseja em um relacionamento.
Ele pode começar a tratá-la mal porque quer se vingar dela por fazê-lo sentir o que ela o faz sentir.
Por outro lado, o que alguns caras fazem é ver que sua mulher mudou e não está mais realmente apaixonada por eles e realmente não parece se importar mais e o cara vai começar a sugá-la.
Ele vai começar a comprar coisas para ela.
Ele vai começar a levá-la a bons restaurantes.
Ele vai começar a fazer mais tarefas pela casa e, essencialmente, tentará tornar a vida dela o mais fácil e agradável possível.
No entanto, não importa o que ele faça por ela, nunca é o suficiente, nunca funciona, ou ele nunca será capaz de ligar o botão de Boa Garota de novo, do jeito que ela era no início do relacionamento.
Ele não é capaz de levá-la de volta a esse estado de ser.
Ele não é capaz de trazer esse comportamento para dentro dela.
Então, o que eu quero que você saiba é que quando você está em um relacionamento com uma mulher, você não precisa se esforçar muito e comprar muitas coisas para ela e fazer um monte de coisas por ela para fazê-la feliz o suficiente para tratá-lo bem.
Não é assim que funciona.
Como homem, a melhor maneira de abordar um relacionamento com uma mulher é interagir com ela de maneiras que naturalmente a façam sentir respeito, atração e amor por você, sem que você tenha que trabalhar muito, se esforçar muito e comprá-la coisas e tratá-la como uma princesa e assim por diante.
Agora, não há nada de errado em tratar bem uma mulher em um relacionamento.
Não há nada de errado em ser um bom homem, mas você não precisa se esforçar muito e puxar o saco de uma mulher e não precisa se estressar e ter discussões com ela e tentar dizer a ela para mudar e ir de volta ao jeito que ela costumava ser.
Isso não funciona.
Você apenas tem que interagir com ela de uma forma que mostre naturalmente o que há de melhor nela.
O que você descobrirá quando abordar seu relacionamento dessa forma é que ele se torna praticamente sem esforço para você.
Você não precisa mais fazer muito esforço para tentar obter algo dela.
Em vez disso, ela dá e dá e dá porque é bom para ela ser assim para você.
Ela quer ser uma boa garota para você.
Ok, espero que você tenha gostado deste vídeo e aprendido algo com ele.
Se você gostaria de saber mais, recomendo que você assista ou ouça meu programa, Make Her Love You For Life.
Ao assistir ou ouvir o programa, você aprenderá exatamente como fazer sua mulher respeitar você, sentir-se sexualmente atraída por você e estar totalmente apaixonada por você para o resto da vida.
Você aprenderá minhas melhores técnicas para fazer uma mulher ser uma boa garota para você, fazendo-a ser amorosa, afetuosa e atenciosa e realmente se importar com você e com o relacionamento.
Como eu disse antes no vídeo, ser emocionalmente independente é uma maneira de acionar aquele botão de boa menina dentro de uma mulher.
Há muitas outras maneiras de ativar esse botão de boa menina dentro dela, então ela é uma boa mulher para você e você aprenderá tudo sobre isso no programa.
Traga o que há de melhor nela, ou algum outro cara o fará
Um último ponto que quero deixar claro para você neste vídeo, é que quase todas as mulheres do planeta têm dentro de si a capacidade de ser uma boa menina.
Ela tem isso dentro dela.
Alguns caras não sabem como trazer esse lado de uma mulher quando estão em um relacionamento com ela.
Como resultado, ela nunca mostra seu lado amoroso, solidário, atencioso, atencioso e de boa menina com ele.
No entanto, se ela terminar com ele e começar um relacionamento com outro cara que traz à tona o lado bom de menina dela, então ela será uma pessoa completamente diferente nesse relacionamento.
Ela sempre teve dentro dela ser aquele tipo de boa menina que é amorosa, atenciosa e afetuosa, atenciosa e realmente quer fazer coisas boas para seu homem, mas o outro cara não era capaz de tirar esse lado dela.
O que você precisa entender sobre as mulheres é que elas são mais felizes quando estão em um relacionamento com um cara que traz o lado bom de menina delas.
Uma mulher não quer ter um relacionamento onde ela está sendo um pé no saco, ela está sendo uma chata, ela não está sendo afetuosa, ela não quer um abraço, não quer fazer sexo e assim por diante .
Ela não quer estar nessa situação.
Ela quer estar apaixonada, ela quer ser feliz e você pode literalmente trazer esse lado de uma mulher.
Quando você faz isso, ela o trata muito melhor.
Ela é mais carinhosa, mais atenciosa, se preocupa com você e quer fazer coisas boas por você.
Você merece esse tipo de respeito, carinho e atenção de uma mulher e você pode literalmente tirar isso dela com base em como você interage com ela.
96,2% das mulheres solteiras querem que você conheça esse segredo.
Por que é um número tão exato? Por que é de 96,2%?
Eu vou te dizer isso em um segundo. Primeiro, deixe-me dizer o que eles querem que você saiba.
O que 96,2% das mulheres solteiras querem que os homens solteiros saibam é que às vezes você conhecerá uma mulher, ela gostará de você e sentirá uma faísca, mas na verdade não terá coragem de lhe mostrar muito interesse no conversa, no caso de você rejeitá-la.
Mesmo que algumas mulheres pareçam não se importar se um cara as rejeitasse, as mulheres também são humanas.
Se você já experimentou a rejeição de uma mulher por quem se sentiu atraído e por quem tinha interesse, então você sabe que não é um sentimento agradável.
As mulheres também sofreram rejeição.
Muitas vezes ao longo de sua vida de solteira, uma mulher passa por situações em que conhece um cara, se sente atraída por ele, se interessa por ele e então ele perde o interesse em conversar com ela ou em persegui-la por algum motivo.
Em alguns casos, isso acontece porque o cara não sentia atração suficiente por ela.
Em outros casos, o cara perde o interesse porque ela não está dando sinais óbvios de interesse e ele pensa que não há faísca ali, então ele para de perseguir.
Em alguns casos, alguns rapazes simplesmente gostam de fazer as mulheres se sentirem atraídas por eles e não têm intenção de perseguir a maioria das mulheres com quem interagem e fazem sentir-se atraídos por eles.
A propósito, cerca de 96,2% das mulheres…
Por que é esse número exato?
Bem, de acordo com uma pesquisa Gallup nos EUA, 3,8% das mulheres se identificam como lésbicas.
Então, as lésbicas por aí não querem que um único cara pense que se ele está falando com ela e ela não está demonstrando interesse óbvio, isso significa que ela tem medo da rejeição.
Neste vídeo, estou falando sobre aproximadamente 96,2% das mulheres por aí que gostam que a perna do meio de um homem entre lá e talvez até lá às vezes, se ela estiver se sentindo um pouco travessa.
Ok, piadas à parte …
A lição séria que você pode tirar deste vídeo é que muitas vezes, quando você interage com uma mulher, ela geralmente não quer mostrar muito interesse óbvio, caso você perca o interesse por ela enquanto fala com ela.
Alternativamente, ela pode estar preocupada que você apenas vá fazê-la sentir-se atraída e te querer e então você não vai persegui-la.
Isso vai deixá-la com a sensação de que foi rejeitada por você, que ela não foi boa o suficiente para você e assim por diante.
Então, quando você conhece uma mulher e a faz se sentir atraída por ser confiante, usar um pouco de humor ousado ou provocá-la de brincadeira durante uma conversa, ser carismático e assim por diante, então você tem que entender que ela vai sentir algumas faíscas de atração por isso.
Dependendo da mulher, ela pode mostrar sinais óbvios de interesse e tornar realmente óbvio que quer que algo aconteça, ou pode ter medo de mostrar muito interesse, caso você a rejeite.
Alternativamente, ela pode ser o tipo de mulher que não quer mostrar muito interesse durante os primeiros 5 a 10 minutos de uma conversa para ver que tipo de nível de confiança você tem.
Na maioria dos casos, esse tipo de mulher será as mulheres realmente gostosas que só querem um cara confiante porque sabem que se entrarem em um relacionamento com um cara que não se sente digno delas e que não é realmente confiante, então ele quase certamente se tornará carente, pegajoso e potencialmente controlador no relacionamento.
Então, se você conhece uma mulher e está fazendo o que é necessário para que ela se sinta naturalmente atraída por você, como ser confiante, carismática, usar certos tipos de humor e assim por diante, certifique-se de acreditar em si mesmo .
Certifique-se de não analisar excessivamente como a mulher está se comportando.
Certifique-se de não olhar para o comportamento inseguro ou medroso de uma mulher sobre ser rejeitada como significando que você não é bom o suficiente para ela ou que ela não se sente atraída por você
Claro, não é possível atrair todas as mulheres do mundo.
No entanto, se você está exibindo traços de personalidade e comportamentos que atraem naturalmente as mulheres, como ser confiante, carismático, emocionalmente masculino e assim por diante, a maioria das mulheres que conhecer se sentirá atraída por você.
Algumas mulheres sentirão um pouco de atração, algumas mulheres sentirão muita atração e algumas mulheres sentirão uma atração intensa.
No entanto, o que você precisa entender é que quando você exibe traços de personalidade e comportamentos que atraem as mulheres naturalmente, elas se sentirão naturalmente atraídas por você.
A questão é, porém, você provavelmente achará muito difícil ouvir uma mulher admitir o que acabei de dizer neste vídeo.
A maioria das mulheres não gosta de admitir que deseja um homem.
Muitas mulheres modernas passam a vida agindo como se não precisassem de um homem, não têm medo da rejeição, não precisam de nada, mas a realidade é que as mulheres também são humanas.
Eles realmente sentem a dor da rejeição e realmente querem evitar essa sensação dolorosa.
Portanto, certifique-se de não duvidar de si mesmo e sinta que não é bom o suficiente se uma mulher não estiver mostrando sinais óbvios de interesse.
Ok, espero que você tenha gostado deste vídeo e aprendido algo com ele.
Se você deseja saber mais, recomendo que leia meu e-book The Flow ou ouça a versão do audiolivro, The Flow em Áudio.
The Flow é a maneira mais fácil de transar e arranjar uma namorada.
É um processo passo a passo que você usa para atrair mulheres, se conectar com elas e levar as coisas para o próximo nível.
É fácil de usar e funciona.
Um último ponto que quero mostrar a você neste vídeo é que, ao longo de sua vida, você provavelmente conheceu várias mulheres atraentes que estavam interessadas em você e estavam abertas a algo acontecendo entre você e eles, mas você interpretou mal os sinais dela .
Você viu a falta de interesse óbvio dela como significando que você não era bom o suficiente para ela, quando na verdade, você era bom o suficiente para ela.
Como você pode fazer com que seu ex se arrependa de tê-lo deixado a ponto de pensar, “Droga, por que eu terminei com ele? Eu o quero de volta” e então ela se abre novamente e você interage com ela, se encontra e a traz de volta?
Bem, há uma maneira rápida de fazer isso e outra lenta.
Alguns caras vão estar abertos para fazer da maneira lenta porque eles não estão com pressa para ter sua ex-mulher de volta, mas a maioria dos caras vai querer fazer isso da maneira rápida para que eles possam ter uma chance com ela e comece o relacionamento novamente.
A maneira lenta de fazer isso é se concentrar em construir sua carreira e se tornar mais bem-sucedida nos próximos 6 meses a 3 anos de sua vida.
Também inclui ir à academia e desenvolver músculos.
Leva muitos meses para construir algum músculo a ponto de ser bem perceptível.
No entanto, aqui está a coisa …
Mesmo que um cara desenvolva seus músculos e sua carreira, não há garantia de que sua ex-mulher vai realmente se importar com isso.
Se ela terminou com ele porque ele era um cara inseguro e emocionalmente muito sensível e isso a desanimou, então ela não vai se importar muito se ele ganhar alguns músculos.
Ele se construiu superficialmente, mas por dentro ele ainda vai ser aquele cara inseguro e emocionalmente sensível que ela largou.
Como resultado, ela não vai se arrepender de perdê-lo.
Ela não vai se arrepender de sua decisão de terminar com ele.
Ela pode pensar consigo mesma, “Oh, ele parece muito melhor hoje em dia”, mas ela também vai estar pensando, “Sim, mas ele provavelmente ainda é o mesmo cara inseguro por dentro.”
Claro, às vezes um cara consegue pegar seu ex-namorado abordando-o de maneira mais lenta.
Ele passa anos construindo sua carreira e construindo alguns músculos e quando ele eventualmente se encontra com sua ex novamente ou ela descobre sobre ele, ela se arrepende de tê-lo deixado e ele pode então tê-la de volta.
Então, se um cara quiser se aproximar de você dessa forma porque ele não está com pressa para ter sua ex-mulher de volta, ele pode ir em frente e fazer isso.
Ele pode se desenvolver com o tempo, construir sua carreira, construir seus músculos (se isso for importante para ele) e ele também pode se concentrar no que é mais importante, que é construir sua confiança, sua auto-estima e seu estado emocional atratividade.
Por exemplo, preparando-se para o ponto em que ele interage com sua ex, onde ele seja muito mais confiante, carismático, engraçado, emocionalmente masculino e capaz de fazê-la se sentir feminina em sua presença.
Ele a faz se sentir feminina e feminina porque ele é muito masculino na maneira como aborda as conversas, na maneira como fala, na maneira como se sente, na maneira como pensa, na maneira como se comporta e como age.
Então, um cara pode abordar dessa forma se não estiver com pressa.
A maneira mais rápida de fazê-la se arrepender de ter deixado você e te querer de volta
Agora, se você é um dos caras que está com um pouco de pressa e quer ter seu ex de volta rapidamente, ou seja, nos próximos dias, na próxima semana ou um pouco mais, então eu recomendo que você o aborde usando um método muito mais rápido.
Para apresentá-lo a esse método, vou lhe dar três dicas.
1. Suba de nível de uma forma que ela não esperava que você fizesse
Por exemplo, um cara legal bem-educado de repente se torna um cara muito confiante e corajoso.
Ele ainda é um cara legal, mas não é tão educado e reservado como antes.
Ele se iluminou um pouco e isso a faz sorrir, rir e se sentir bem por estar interagindo com ele.
Ela não se sente mais tão tensa perto dele.
Ela agora pode relaxar e ser ela mesma muito mais, em vez de sentir que precisa agir para ser mais legal, mais educada ou mais reservada do que realmente é ou deseja ser.
Agora, com esta primeira dica, o motivo pelo qual faz parte do método mais rápido é que você rapidamente sobe de nível de uma forma que ela não esperava e, em seguida, interage com ela.
Você não sobe de nível de maneiras que ela não esperava e, em seguida, permanece cortando o contato com ela e torce para que ela descubra por meio de boatos ou que alguém conte a ela.
É sobre como subir de nível de maneiras que ela não esperava que você fizesse e interagir com ela.
Essa é a abordagem de um homem para ter uma mulher de volta.
Você assume o controle da situação.
Você não deixa tudo nas mãos dela e apenas espera e torce para que ela volte para você um dia.
Se você a quer de volta, você interage com ela, faz com que ela se sinta atraída por você de maneiras que ela não esperava e ela gosta dos novos sentimentos que está tendo ao seu redor.
De repente, você não parece o cara que ela largou.
Você é muito mais interessante e atraente para ela agora.
Como resultado, ela começa a se arrepender de ter deixado você e quer você de volta.
Agora, olhe …
Alguns caras podem melhorar rapidamente assim por conta própria, enquanto outros precisam de ajuda.
Se você é o tipo de cara que consegue fazer isso sozinho, vá em frente e faça isso.
No entanto, se você é o tipo de cara que está lutando para subir de nível e mudar de maneira que a faça se sentir atraída, continue lendo …
2. Faça com que ela sinta que quer você de volta mais do que você a quer de volta
Então, é aqui que você interage com ela e a faz se sentir atraída pelo novo e melhorado você, mas você não pressiona por um relacionamento.
Você está apenas interagindo com ela, fazendo-a se sentir sexualmente e romanticamente atraída por você e deixando isso crescer.
Ela está gostando dos sentimentos novos e emocionantes que está experimentando ao seu redor agora, mas você não está pressionando por um relacionamento.
Você está bem com ou sem ela.
Você não está pressionando e perguntando, “Podemos ter outra chance?”
Você não está tentando fazer com que ela decida se vai ou não lhe dar outra chance.
Você está bem com ou sem ela.
Você não diz isso a ela porque seria rude e faria com que sua guarda subisse.
Em vez disso, você dá a ela a impressão de que, com base em sua linguagem corporal, na maneira como você se comporta e no seu estilo de conversas, você está bem sem ela, mas também a acha atraente, gosta de passar tempo com ela e a ama e como ela.
O que acontece quando você faz isso é que aumenta a tensão sexual entre você e ela.
A tensão sexual ocorre quando um homem e uma mulher se sentem sexualmente atraídos um pelo outro, mas há um obstáculo entre eles fazerem sexo.
Por exemplo, um homem e uma mulher em um ambiente de escritório são atraídos um pelo outro, mas é proibido namorar e fazer sexo com colegas de trabalho.
Então, há essa tensão sexual que continua crescendo entre eles.
Ambos estão se sentindo sexualmente atraídos um pelo outro, mas há um obstáculo entre a ocorrência do sexo e as políticas, as regras de gestão sobre os funcionários não serem autorizados a fazer sexo entre si.
Você pode conseguir o mesmo efeito com sua ex-namorada ou ex-esposa, fazendo-a sentir-se atraída por você novamente, mas não pressionando por um relacionamento.
Ela está se sentindo sexualmente atraída por você, ela pode ver que você está se sentindo atraído por ela, mas você não está pressionando por um relacionamento e nem mesmo por sexo.
Está apenas crescendo entre você e ela.
Ela se pega olhando para você e se sentindo tão atraída por você e também percebendo que pode realmente querer você mais do que você a deseja.
Agora, nesse ponto, a maioria dos casais vai fazer sexo e tudo bem.
Você pode ir em frente e fazer isso e você a terá de volta.
No entanto, se você realmente quiser mexer com a mente dela e ir muito longe, pode ir embora nesse ponto.
Por exemplo: ela está se sentindo muito atraída por você, ela está se apaixonando por você e você diz que precisa sair de lá porque tem algo para fazer (por exemplo, começar a trabalhar, conversar com um amigo que você prometeu que ajudaria ou com quem falaria, execute alguma tarefa que você tem que atender).
Ela vai sentir sua falta como uma louca nesse ponto e ela vai se arrepender de ter deixado você.
Ela vai querer você de volta.
3. Torne-se verdadeiramente, emocionalmente independente dela
Agora, uma coisa é agir como se você estivesse bem sem ela e outra totalmente diferente é realmente estar bem sem ela.
O que os caras erram ao tentar obter uma ex-mulher de volta é que são emocionalmente dependentes dela.
Eles são emocionalmente dependentes de ela tomar uma decisão sobre se ela vai ou não voltar com ele.
Sem ela em sua vida, ele se sente perdido, deprimido, solitário, se sente um pouco perdedor, tem vergonha de falar com sua família, amigos e colegas de trabalho porque foi dispensado.
Ele precisa tê-la em sua vida para se sentir bem o suficiente, para se sentir completo novamente e para se sentir bem novamente.
Agora, o problema com isso é que as mulheres não querem realmente ser responsáveis pelo estado emocional de seus homens.
Sua mulher não quer se sentir responsável por seu nível de confiança e auto-estima.
O que uma mulher realmente respeita e se sente atraída em um homem é quando ele está confiante, feliz e avança na vida com ou sem ela.
Como eu disse antes no vídeo, você não quer realmente dizer isso para uma mulher, porque é uma coisa rude de se dizer e também é algo que vai fazer sua guarda subir.
Se você disser e ela achar que é rude, ela pode decidir se vingar de você dizendo: “Sim? Bem, você está bem sem mim. Ok, estou bem sem você também. Não vamos falar de novo. ”
Aí ela sai com as amigas, fica com uns caras e tenta fazer você se sentir magoado por dizer isso a ela.
Então, estar bem com ou sem ela não é algo que você tem que dizer a uma mulher.
É apenas algo que surge com base em como você interage com ela (ou seja, você não é um cara carente, não está pressionando por um relacionamento. Você está simplesmente interagindo com ela, fazendo-a se sentir atraída por você e deixando a tensão acumular).
Então, se você quiser que seu ex se arrependa de ter deixado você, concentre-se em subir de nível de uma forma que ela não esperava, então interaja com ela, faça-a se sentir atraída, mas não pressione por um relacionamento
Quando você fizer isso, ou você vai voltar com ela imediatamente ou ela vai se arrepender de ter deixado você.
Ela vai pensar em você o tempo todo, sentindo sua falta e querendo você de volta.
Ok, espero que você tenha gostado deste vídeo e aprendido algo com ele.
Se você gostaria de saber mais, eu recomendo que você assista ao meu programa, Get Your Ex Back Super System
Ao assistir ao programa, você aprenderá minhas melhores técnicas para fazer uma mulher querer você de volta agora.
Ao seguir as etapas do sistema, você terá outra chance com ela.
Ela vai baixar a guarda, se abrir para você e lhe dar outra chance.
Ela provavelmente não é tão forte quanto ela se diz
Um último ponto que eu quero fazer para você neste vídeo é lembrar que a maioria das mulheres não é tão forte quanto parece.
Muitas mulheres modernas agem como se fossem realmente fortes, mulheres emocionalmente independentes e nada as abala.
Ainda assim, o fato é que a maioria das mulheres chora uma vez por semana ou muitas vezes por semana ou talvez algumas vezes por mês para as mulheres realmente fortes.
Isso não acontece com os homens. Bem, a maioria dos homens, de qualquer maneira.
Nós, homens, somos muito mais fortes do que as mulheres no que diz respeito às nossas emoções.
Aqui estão algumas estatísticas para colocá-lo em perspectiva para você.
- De acordo com o Instituto Nacional de Saúde Mental dos EUA, as mulheres são relatadas para sofrer de depressão duas vezes mais que os homens.
- De acordo com a Anxiety and Depression Association of America, as mulheres têm duas vezes mais chances de sentir ansiedade em comparação aos homens.
- 60% das pessoas que têm TOC, transtorno obsessivo-compulsivo e fobias são mulheres.
- De acordo com um estudo publicado na Evolutionary and Behavioral Sciences, as mulheres experimentam mais dor emocional do que os homens depois de uma separação.
Então, sua ex-mulher pode estar fingindo ser super forte sem você, não se importar, ser totalmente indiferente, mas na maioria dos casos, o que eu descobri é que isso não é verdade, especialmente se o ex-namorado dela interagir com ela em algum momento e a faz sentir uma centelha de atração.
Na maioria dos casos, basta uma centelha de atração e então ela começa a mudar a forma como pensa, se comporta e age.
Por exemplo, ela interage com seu ex-namorado e ele está muito mais confiante agora.
Ele fala com ela e a faz rir e sorrir e ela gosta de interagir com ele.
Como resultado, ela vai sentir uma centelha de atração por isso.
Como você deve saber, as mulheres acham os homens atraentes quando estão confiantes e podem fazê-los rir.
Então, ela vai sentir uma centelha de atração.
Compare isso com um cara que interage com ela e ele está apenas sendo neutro.
Ele está apenas dizendo, “Ei, como vai você? Como estão as coisas? ” de uma forma neutra como um amigo.
Ele não está criando ativamente uma centelha de atração sexual dentro dela ao abordar as conversas dessa maneira.
Em casos como esse, ela realmente não vai sentir muito ou nada por ele, então ela vai seguir em frente sem ele.
No entanto, quando um cara rapidamente sobe de nível de maneiras que ela não esperava e então interage com ela e a faz se sentir atraída, ela automaticamente começa a se sentir atraída por ele.
Ela automaticamente começa a mudar a forma como pensa e se sente e, como resultado, seu comportamento muda.
Ela passa de não querer estar com ele para lamentar o fato de que eles terminaram.
Ela se sente atraída por ele de maneiras novas e emocionantes agora e ela quer voltar com ele.
Ele pode, então, ficar com ela sexualmente e retomar o relacionamento.
Então, depende de você se você usa uma abordagem longa, lenta e demorada para, com sorte, recuperá-la em muitos meses ou anos a partir de agora, ou se você usa uma abordagem rápida para recuperá-la nos próximos dias ou semanas.
Se você não está com pressa para trazê-la de volta, pode ir em frente e usar a abordagem mais lenta.
Se você está com pressa para recuperá-la, recomendo usar um método muito mais rápido.
Eu recomendo fazer o trabalho, assumir o controle da situação, rapidamente subir de nível como homem, interagir com ela, fazer com que ela se sinta atraída e recuperá-la.
Para ser claro aqui, a Zona de Amizade é quando você tem um interesse sexual por uma mulher e deseja ter um relacionamento romântico sexual com ela, mas ela só o vê como um amigo.
Então, a primeira coisa engraçada sobre a Friend Zone é …
1. Geralmente é o cara que se coloca na Friend Zone
Algumas mulheres colocam os caras na Friend Zone porque elas não têm absolutamente nenhum interesse no cara e nunca namorariam um cara como ele, mas na maioria das situações quando um cara está na Friend Zone, ele realmente se colocou lá.
A mulher ficaria com ele sexualmente e teria um relacionamento com ele, mas ele se colocou na Zona de Amizade porque não acha que é bom o suficiente para ela.
Ele está se esforçando demais para fazer com que ela goste dele, está se esforçando demais para conhecê-la e espera que, eventualmente, ela mostre a ele um forte sinal de que ela quer mais do que apenas uma amizade.
Nesse ínterim, ele ainda não se sente bem.
Ele está falando com ela e tentando sair com ela e construir algum tipo de relacionamento para que algo aconteça.
No entanto, como você deve ter visto em sua vida, quando um cara usa essa abordagem com uma mulher, tudo o que normalmente leva para ele ser empurrado para o lado de fora é que outro cara apareça e a faça se sentir atraída.
O novo cara não é necessariamente mais bonito do que ele, mas a única diferença sobre esse novo cara é que ele acredita que é bom o suficiente para ela.
Ele não interage com ela de uma forma em que está apenas tentando ser amigo dela.
Ele não está tentando construir algum tipo de relacionamento realmente conhecendo-a ao longo do tempo.
Em vez disso, ele está se concentrando em fazê-la se sentir sexualmente atraída e excitada por ele.
Quando isso acontece, o cara que estava na Friend Zone fica pensando, “O que? Por que ela fez aquilo? Estávamos nos dando muito bem. Temos muitas coisas em comum. Nós saímos. Nós falamos. Ela ri. Ela estava até tocando meu braço e minha perna e tudo parecia estar indo bem. Achei que estava recebendo ótimos sinais dela. ”
Sim, ela estava dando alguns sinais, mas no final do dia, ela realmente não quer ter uma amizade.
Ela quer ter um relacionamento sexual romântico.
Então, quando aparece um cara que encurta o processo e apenas a faz se sentir sexualmente atraída e excitada, ela tem um interesse sexual por ele.
Ele fará isso sendo muito confiante com ela e usando humor, sendo charmoso e carismático, mas o mais importante, ele fará isso não dando a ela a impressão de que está esperando ter uma chance com ela.
Os caras que se colocam na Zona de Amizade tendem a dar à mulher a impressão de que desejam ser amados por ela.
A mulher, se ela tem alguma experiência com namoro, pode ver isso.
Ela pode ver que ele realmente não acredita em si mesmo e está tentando crescer com ela com o tempo.
Em alguns casos, essa abordagem lenta dos amigos pode realmente funcionar.
Por exemplo, no caso de dois colegas de trabalho trabalhando juntos por alguns anos.
Se a mulher está passando muito tempo com o cara e ele é capaz de crescer com ela com o tempo, ele poderia ser capaz de ter uma chance com ela.
No entanto, se outro cara chega ao local de trabalho e a faz se sentir atraída imediatamente, então ela não vai realmente se concentrar no cara que está apenas fazendo com que ela sinta emoções amigáveis.
Ela vai se concentrar no cara que a faz se sentir sexualmente atraída.
O cara que estava usando a primeira abordagem dos amigos é deixado para trás.
Agora, é importante ressaltar que ela não colocou o cara na Friend Zone.
Ele se colocou lá usando uma abordagem inicial de amigos.
Ele estava tentando conhecê-la e lentamente construir um relacionamento com o tempo, enquanto o outro cara se concentrava em fazê-la sentir-se sexualmente atraída e excitada imediatamente.
É assim que ele evitou a zona de amizade e conseguiu seu interesse sexual e romântico imediatamente.
Agora, no local de trabalho, alguns caras podem estar se perguntando, “Como ele pode fazer isso sem se meter em problemas?”
Na verdade, tudo se resume à maneira como você se apresenta quando está interagindo com uma mulher.
Um cara que é confiante com as mulheres e sabe como fazê-las se sentir sexualmente atraídas fará isso de maneiras sutis.
Por exemplo, se ele está fazendo uma mulher se sentir atraída por ele por ser confiante e carismático e ele perceber isso, ele começará a mostrar a ela que ele está percebendo que ela o acha atraente e ele também começará a mostrar a ela que acha ela sexualmente atraente.
Ele vai fazer isso de uma forma muito sutil, no entanto.
Ele vai falar com ela, por exemplo, e olhar para ela de cima a baixo. Ele vai mostrar a ela que a acha atraente, mas o fará de maneira sutil, como um chapéu.
Sinais sutis como esse mostram a ela que ele está ciente da tensão sexual que está crescendo entre ele e ela.
Ela pode então flertar com ele tocando-o, batendo nele de brincadeira às vezes, mordendo o lábio ao falar com ele (quando ninguém mais está olhando) e olhando-o de cima a baixo de uma forma sutil e sexual.
Por outro lado, o cara na Friend Zone está apenas sendo legal e neutro com ela e não criando uma centelha sexual.
Ele está dizendo, “Oi, como você está hoje? Como está o trabalho? Como vão as coisas Sim, estou trabalhando neste projeto, ” e está sendo Sr. Neutro e sendo Sr. Amigável.
Ele se colocou na Zona de Amizade com base em sua abordagem a ela.
A segunda coisa engraçada sobre a Friend Zone é que …
2. A maioria dos caras nem mesmo está ciente de que está fazendo isso
A próxima vez que você estiver em um bar, uma festa ou um evento social, observe como a maioria dos caras interagem com as mulheres que eles consideram atraentes.
A maioria dos caras usa a abordagem inicial dos amigos e está tentando conhecer a mulher e construir algum tipo de amizade e relacionamento, para que possam eventualmente ter uma chance com ela.
A maioria dos caras duvida de si mesma perto de mulheres atraentes e sente que não é bom o suficiente para elas
Agora, a questão é que a maioria desses caras SÃO bons o suficiente para as mulheres.
Eles são mais do que bons para ela, mas é o pensamento inseguro e duvidoso do cara que está fazendo com que ele se comporte assim.
Ele acha que precisa lentamente construir uma conexão com ela, construir algum tipo de relacionamento e, com sorte, ela vai gostar dele.
Alternativamente, ele está pensando que uma mulher como ela não iria querer um cara como ele.
Então, ele está pensando, “Tudo bem. Vou tentar ser legal com ela, tentar falar com ela e nos dar bem e, com sorte, construirmos algum tipo de conexão e ela gosta de mim por isso. ”
Então você vê outro cara vir e falar com ela e ele usa o que eu chamo de abordagem da atração.
Ele se concentra em fazê-la sentir-se sexualmente atraída e excitada por ele.
Agora, ele não está sendo desprezível sobre isso e não está dizendo, “Ei garota. O que está acontecendo? Deixe-me ver essa bunda. Oh sim. Eu gosto do seu. Você me mostra seus seios. “
Não é uma primeira abordagem desprezível.
Eu não estou falando sobre isso.
Estou falando sobre atração.
Você a faz se sentir sexualmente atraída e excitada por você de maneiras sutis.
Por exemplo, um cara que está sendo confiante e fazendo uma mulher se sentir atraída por ele com base em sua confiança e no humor que está usando e no carisma que está exibindo.
Ele está falando com ela e ela pergunta a ele, “Então, o que você vai fazer mais tarde?”
Um cara que não vai fazê-la se sentir atraída nesse ponto responderá de maneira lógica.
Ele responderá a sua pergunta e perderá a oportunidade de criar um entendimento sexual entre eles.
No entanto, um cara que usa a abordagem da atração em primeiro lugar e está focado em fazer a mulher se sentir atraída ouvirá sua pergunta e responderá de uma maneira muito melhor.
Ela pergunta a ele, “Então, o que você vai fazer mais tarde?” e ele olha para ela e diz, “Puxa, você se move rápido. Estamos conversando há apenas alguns minutos. Nossa, vá com calma. Você vai precisar me levar em alguns encontros primeiro, beber vinho e me jantar e talvez depois de alguns encontros, eu vou deixar você segurar minha mão. “
Praticamente toda garota para quem você disser isso vai rir disso.
Ela então tentará lhe dizer que não estava dizendo isso e é você quem precisa levá-la para encontros e assim por diante.
No entanto, como resultado de falar com ela dessa forma, você está deixando-a saber que há algo acontecendo entre você e ela.
Não é apenas uma amizade.
Você não está tentando conhecê-la e descobrir tudo sobre seus interesses e, “Sério? Você gosta de caminhadas. Oh, isso é legal. Oh, você é um contador. Há quanto tempo você está fazendo isso? Oh isso é ótimo. Onde você estudou? Sério. Ok, o que mais posso perguntar que vai te entediar até as lágrimas? “
Agora, não há nada de errado em fazer perguntas às mulheres sobre essas coisas e não há nada de errado em discutir essas coisas.
No entanto, se um cara está usando a primeira abordagem de amigos com uma mulher onde ele está tentando ser amigo dela e construir algum tipo de conexão e não está focado em fazê-la se sentir sexualmente atraída e excitada, então ele quase certamente irá terminar na Friend Zone.
Se ele falar com ela por uma hora e eles parecerem se dar bem e então ele pedir o número de telefone dela, é quase certo que ela dirá não.
Ela pode dizer algo como, “Bem, você é legal e foi ótimo conversar com você, mas me desculpe por não divulgar meu número em bares,” ou, “Sinto muito, não estou procurando um namorado agora,” ou, “Desculpe, estou muito ocupado no momento,” ou, “Eu não tenho um número de telefone,” que algumas mulheres dirão também.
A razão pela qual ela fará isso é porque ela não está se sentindo sexualmente atraída por ele.
Ela pode se dar bem com ele de uma forma amigável, mas ela não está realmente procurando por uma amizade.
Ela está procurando por um relacionamento romântico e sexual.
Ela então começará a falar com outro cara e se ele estiver fazendo com que ela se sinta sexualmente atraída e excitada, ela vai lhe dar seu número de telefone ou eles vão acabar se beijando e fazendo sexo naquela noite.
Agora, isso não significa que o cara que ganhou o Friend Zoned não era bom o suficiente para ela.
Ele quase certamente era bom o suficiente para ela, mas cometeu o erro de usar uma abordagem muito amigável.
Não havia centelha sexual suficiente ali.
Não há nada de errado em ser amigável ao falar com uma mulher, mas você também deve garantir que ela se sinta sexualmente atraída e excitada.
No final do dia, essa é a diferença entre uma amizade e um relacionamento sexual.
Ok, espero que você tenha gostado deste vídeo e aprendido algo com ele.
Se você quiser saber mais, recomendo que leia meu e-book, The Flow, ou ouça a versão do audiolivro, The Flow on Audio.
Quando você ler The Flow ou ouvir a versão em áudio, aprenderá exatamente o que dizer e fazer para atrair mulheres e chegar ao sexo e aos relacionamentos.
Na verdade, é uma coisa muito fácil de fazer.
A maioria das mulheres é muito mais fácil de entender do que parece.
Você só precisa ter certeza de que está usando uma abordagem que faça com que eles se sintam atraídos por você e, então, saiba o que dizer e fazer para obter um número de telefone, beijo, sexo e um relacionamento.
Então, de agora em diante, você notará que a maioria dos caras realmente se coloca na Zona de Amizade com mulheres que eles gostam e eles nem sabem disso.
Isso representa uma oportunidade incrível para você.
Quando você for um dos raros caras que usam a abordagem da atração em primeiro lugar, verá como a maioria das mulheres é fácil de entender. A maioria das mulheres vai agir como se fossem difíceis e difíceis de alcançar quando os homens usam a abordagem inicial dos amigos.
No entanto, quando um cara usa a primeira abordagem da atração e a faz se sentir sexualmente atraída e excitada, ela não quer brincar com ele e bagunçar tudo.
Ela pode testar sua confiança jogando um pouco difícil às vezes, mas ela vai se interessar por uma experiência sexual romântica com ele.
Ela não vai olhar para ele apenas como um amigo.
Ela vai ter um interesse sexual e romântico.
Ele pode então mover as coisas para um número de telefone, um beijo, sexo ou um relacionamento se ele quiser também depois do sexo.
Ele tem essa escolha.
A mulher tem interesse sexual por ele.
Ele pode ir em frente e desfrutar disso e então o que quer que aconteça depois disso depende dos dois.
Enquanto isso, o cara da Friend Zone, que não entende o que você acabou de aprender, está pensando, “O que há de errado com as mulheres? Eu fui tão legal com ela. Estávamos nos dando bem e agora ela sai e fica com outro cara. ”
Como você já sabe, a resposta é simples.
Você deve se concentrar em fazê-la se sentir atraída e sentir que é digno dela.
Não se coloque na zona de amizade pensando que você não é bom o suficiente e que você tem que construir uma amizade e lentamente fazer com que ela goste de você.
Você pode fazê-la sentir-se sexualmente atraída e excitada por você imediatamente e pode então construir sobre isso.
A próxima coisa que você sabe é que você e ela estão se beijando, fazendo sexo e curtindo um relacionamento.
É assim que deveria ser fácil e é assim que é fácil quando você usa a abordagem de atração primeiro.
Como você pode fazer com que seu ex volte rastejando para você?
Ela não quer estar com você no momento.
Ela foi embora e não está tentando voltar com você.
Você a quer de volta, mas parece que ela nunca vai mudar de ideia.
Como você pode fazer com que ela mude de ideia, mude como ela se sente e volte rastejando?
Neste vídeo, vou falar sobre três coisas para você.
1. Onde os homens erram ao tentar fazer com que sua ex-mulher volte rastejando.
2. O que pode funcionar.
3. A maneira mais fácil e eficaz de fazer com que ela volte rastejando para você.
1. Onde os caras erram
A principal área em que os homens erram ao pensar em como podem fazer com que sua ex-mulher volte rastejando é cortar completamente o contato com ela por 30, 60 ou mesmo 90 dias.
Isso é o que um cara está esperando …
Ela termina com ele> Ele não entra em contato com ela por 30, 60 ou 90 dias = Ela volta rastejando.
No entanto, em quase todos os casos de ex-back, isso é o que acontece no lugar …
Ela termina com ele> Ele não entra em contato com ela por 30, 60 ou 90 dias = Ela segue em frente sem ele.
Alguns caras podem ter sua ex-mulher de volta simplesmente ignorando-a por muitas semanas ou meses, mas a maioria dos caras não consegue esse resultado.
Na maioria dos casos, a mulher se lembra exatamente por que terminou com o ex-namorado.
So, she doesn’t feel any motivation to want to go back to him.
She was turned off by him.
She broke up with him and if he doesn’t do anything to re-attract her, she will simply move on without him.
An important thing to point out about cutting off contact is that it really does work differently for men and women.
For example, if a man broke up with a woman and she then cut off contact with him, he might eventually get to the point where he’s not getting laid and he can’t find a new woman.
He knows that his ex woman really wanted to be with him, she didn’t want to go through with the breakup.
So, he thinks, “Oh, well, I might as well contact her and catch up with her. I’ll hook up with her, enjoy myself and then I’ll break up with her again.”
A guy will often do that rather than going out there and having to go through the process of picking up new women.
He will just go back to a woman that he can have sex with quite easily because he knows she still wants him.
Therefore, cutting off contact works quite well for women who want to get a man back.
However, the same rule doesn’t apply when a man wants to get a woman back.
When a woman breaks up with a guy, it’s almost always because she is no longer attracted to him.
She doesn’t want to have sex with him anymore.
She doesn’t want to be in his arms, she doesn’t want to be kissed by him.
The reason why she broke up with him was that there were certain things about his behavior and approach to her that turned her off and caused her to just want to get out of the relationship.
If she’s not getting laid, as you would know, it’s very easy for women to get out there and instantly get some action.
So, rather than going back to a guy that she’s not attracted to, she simply moves on and she forgets all about her ex.
This is why most guys who cut off contact for 30, 60 or 90 days don’t see their ex woman come crawling back to them.
She wasn’t attracted to him, so she broke up with him.
In most cases, the woman then continues to remember exactly why she broke up with him and simply moves on without him rather than coming crawling back to a guy that she isn’t even attracted to.
Of course, sometimes a woman is still interested in her ex, but isn’t willing to contact him first or to push for a relationship.
She doesn’t want to end up getting rejected by him and then feeling like she is the one who got dumped and left behind.
For example, she worries that if she reaches out to show interest in him and asks to catch up, he might then say no and say that he doesn’t want anything to do with her.
He’s happy and he has moved on without her.
She will then feel rejected, feel brokenhearted and feel like she is the one who got left behind.
She doesn’t want to put herself in that position emotionally.
So, rather than having the courage to lead the ex back process and potentially face rejection, she just stays quiet.
She thinks to herself, “Well, if he wants me, he’ll come and get me. He will contact me. He’ll arrange a meetup. We’ll connect again, we’ll hook up again and we’ll get back together. If he doesn’t do that, then, well, I’m just going to have to move on.”
Okay, so that’s where a lot of guys go wrong when it comes to hopefully getting their ex woman to come crawling back.
Now, let’s look at what can work…
2. What can work (not recommended for most situations)
Now, before I reveal what can work, I want to point out that this is not my number 1 method to get an ex woman back.
This is what can work, but this is what most guys don’t want to do.
What can work?
Hooking up with other women to make her jealous.
That’s a pretty obvious one to get a woman to come crawling back.
Most guys can put two and two together and work that out themselves.
If a guy has been being broken up with by a woman, he can then go out and hook up with some other women and make her feel jealous.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Most guys who want to get their woman back do not want to have to go out there and hook up with other women.
There’s essentially three reasons for that.
1. The guy just wants his woman back. He doesn’t want any other women.
2. His confidence has taken a bit of a hit since the breakup, or;
3. He’s not really good at attracting and picking up new women.
So, with the first one, most guys are in a situation where they just want their ex woman back.
For example, a guy knows how much he has been through with his woman and how much they have grown together, how great it was to be intimate with each other and he just doesn’t want to go and do that with another woman now.
He wants to continue doing it with his ex woman.
So, this is why the option of going out and hooking up with new women to make an ex jealous can work, but it’s not usually at the top of the list of the favorite things to do for a guy who wants to get his ex woman back.
Okay, so the second reason was that his confidence has taken a bit of a hit since the breakup.
When a guy gets dumped by his woman, it’s often a little bit embarrassing for him to have to face up to friends, family, and co-workers and have to admit that it’s over between him and his woman.
He looks around at everyone else, his friends, his family, his co-workers and they’re enjoying their relationships.
They seem happy.
They don’t seem to be having any problems and here he is, he’s dumped.
He’s on his own now.
He’s no longer in a relationship.
He’s the single guy.
Depending on what his woman said to him during the breakup, he may have also taken a bit of a hit to his confidence because of that.
She might have pointed out a number of things that really turned her off and he might then start thinking that it’s going to be really difficult for him to attract and pick up new women.
The third possible reason is where a guy really isn’t that good at attracting and picking up women in the first place.
So, this is where a guy got lucky when picking up his woman and fumbled his way into a relationship with her.
He knows that it’s going to be very difficult for him to find another quality woman like her.
As a result, he doesn’t want to get out there and start dating again and hopefully find a woman who is as great as her. He just wants her back.
So, while hooking up with new women to make your ex jealous can work to make her come crawling back, it’s usually not the most favorite thing for guys to do after they’ve been dumped by their woman.
Some guys can get out there and do it and they have no problem with it, but most guys don’t want to use that option.
Additionally, while it can work to make an ex come crawling back, sometimes it can backfire.
For example, sometimes a guy will hook up with a new woman and his ex woman will then get jealous.
She will be feeling hurt by that and will go out and hook up with a new guy.
She might then really like the new guy and get into a relationship with him and not want to be with her ex anymore.
Alternatively, she might want to act like she’s really happy with her new guy to make her ex guy feel a lot of pain, to get revenge on him.
So, it can backfire, but it also can work.
It can make a woman look at her ex man as now being more attractive to women and she then starts looking at him in a more positive light and thinking, “Well, if other women are finding him that attractive, maybe he’s not so bad after all.”
She then starts focusing on his positive qualities and comes crawling back or comes back to him and wants to give it another chance.
3. The easiest and most effective way to get her to come crawling back to you
What you do is you give your ex 3 to 7 days of space.
Use that time to rapidly improve your ability to attract her, then interact with her and re-attract her.
Don’t push for a relationship, though.
Instead, end the interaction and leave her wanting more.
That approach = She comes crawling back to you, or she simply comes back to you.
By the way…
There are many ways to re-attract your ex.
For example, you can do it via text, on a phone call, via social media or in person.
For the purpose of this video, I’ll talk about an in-person interaction.
Say, for example, a guy caught up with his ex woman and he made her feel attracted to the new and improved version of him.
He started making her feel attracted to how confident he was now, to how he could get her laughing even though she was being a bit cold to him at the start of the meetup and how he could make her feel turned on by how masculine he was being and how feminine it made her feel in comparison.
When a woman’s feelings have been reactivated in that way, she then starts to look at you in a completely different light.
She starts to think about you differently.
She starts to feel differently and she starts to make different decisions.
She starts feeling drawn to you and wanting to be in your arms, wanting to kiss you, wanting to have sex with you again, but she can also see that you’re not chasing her, you’re not pushing for a relationship and you’re not desperately trying to get her back.
If a guy then ends the catch-up and they go their separate ways, what’s going to be happening inside of her?
She is going to be missing him.
She’s going to be feeling drawn to him.
She’s going to be feeling as though there is still something between him and her.
If she doesn’t get back with him or at least give him another chance, she may end up regretting him as the one that got away.
She’ll begin to worry that if she gets into a relationship with a new guy and isn’t happy, she’s going to be missing her ex guy.
If her ex guy has moved on with a new woman and he’s happy, she’s going to be feeling like she has been left behind.
She has been rejected.
She is the one who is broken hearted and missing her ex.
So, rather than going through all that pain, she decides to contact her ex, catch up with him, give him another chance and enjoy what they now have, enjoy the new feelings that they are experiencing, enjoy the relationship and hope that it continues, hope that it doesn’t end.
I hope that helps you understand that contacting your ex after the breakup doesn’t make you desperate!
Instead, it puts you in control.
You’re in control of the process because, rather than hoping that she comes back on her own for some random reason, you make her feel attracted to you and she wants to come back because she’s feeling drawn to you again.
So many guys make the mistake of just cutting off contact and hoping that their woman comes back.
Instead, she moves on with a new guy and he is left behind.
Don’t put yourself in that position.
If you want your ex woman to come crawling back, it’s best to be a man about it and take control of the situation.
You can take control of the situation by actively making her feel attracted to you again when you interact with her.
Don’t make the mistake of just cutting off contact and hoping that she might come back to you.
If she isn’t attracted to you and she was turned off by you when she broke up with you, then she’s almost certainly going to move on.
The easiest and most effective way to get a woman back after a breakup is to interact with her and make her feel attracted again.
When you make a woman feel attracted again, her guard comes down, she begins to enjoy herself around you and she opens back up to wanting to be in your arms again, kiss you and have sex with you.
When that happens, you and her naturally get back together.
It’s not about you desperately trying to get her back.
Instead, it’s about both of you having strong feelings for each other and feeling amazing as you get back together in an even better relationship than you had before.
Alternatively, rather than getting back with her right away, you can interact with her and make her feel very attracted to you again.
You can make her want you back.
You can then end the interaction and leave her wanting more.
She will then begin to worry that she’s going to lose you and you’re going to be the one that got away.
As a result, she’ll come crawling back to you and you can then give her another chance with you.
Ok, espero que você tenha gostado deste vídeo e aprendido algo com ele.
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When you watch the program, you will learn my very best techniques for making a woman come back to you after a breakup.
When you use the techniques from the program, she will feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
She will fall in love with you again and want to be in a relationship with you now.
Which Approach Do You Think is Best For You?
One final point that I want to make for you in this video, is that it’s really up to you what you do from here on.
If you want to just cut off contact and wait and hope that she may come back one day, then go ahead and do that.
If you feel like it will work for you and she won’t be able to handle not being contacted by you, then great – cut off contact.
Alternatively, if you want to try to make her jealous by hooking up with new women, then go ahead and do that.
However, what I recommend is that you consider using an approach that is very easy and effective.
That is where you interact with your ex and you make her feel attracted to you again.
You give her a reason to want to be with you.
Her feelings have been reawakened.
She wants to be around you now.
She wants to be in your arms.
She wants to be kissed by you.
She wants to have sex with you.
If you do that and you’re also giving her the impression that you’re not desperately chasing her and trying to get a relationship back together ASAP, then she will naturally start to come crawling back to you.
She will naturally want you back for her own reasons.
When trying to get your ex back, you have to be careful that you don’t believe in some of the myths out there about what you have to do.
There are many different opinions on what you should do to get your ex woman back and that is fine.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion.
However, if you believe in any of the following myths and you follow through on it, it will most likely stop you from getting your ex back…
While it is true that some people need exactly 30 days or exactly 60 days to heal, it just doesn’t apply to most situations.
For example: Some guys don’t need any time to heal after the breakup. They just want to get their woman back and are ready to do so now.
Likewise, sometimes a woman breaks up with a guy and she doesn’t need to heal because she doesn’t feel attracted to him anymore.
She’s not interested in the relationship and she just wants to move on. She’s fine.
In other cases, sometimes a guy just needs a few days to calm down, gather his thoughts and prepare to re-attract his ex.
Sometimes a guy needs a week to do that.
However, what you’ll find is that a lot of people will say that you have to cut off contact and heal for 30 days.
Some people will even say you have to heal for 60 days.
Here’s the thing though…
I’ve been helping guys to get women back for years now and sometimes I find that a guy hasn’t healed in YEARS.
His woman broke up with him 3, 4, 5, even 10 years ago and he’s still not over it.
Time is not the answer.
Being away from her for 30 days and trying to heal is not the answer.
Even if you do heal during 30 days and you feel better about yourself, you’re over her, you don’t really need her back, then it doesn’t guarantee that you’re going to get her back.
It’s all about attraction.
The main reason why your ex doesn’t want to be with you at the moment is that she’s not feeling attracted to you.
If you give her 30 days to heal and get over you, it’s not necessarily going to make her feel attracted to you again.
It will in some cases. That is true.
For example: Some women will have time apart from their guy and they’ll end up thinking, “Well, he wasn’t that bad after all. Maybe I should give him another chance.”
Yet, what I’ve found is that most guys don’t get that result.
Most guys who go through with the myth of “You’ve got to give her 30 days to heal and yourself 30 days to heal” get nothing in the end.
So, while you do need to calm down your thoughts and regain control of your emotions to be able to get her back, you also need to be able to re-attract her.
When you interact with her again after giving her some space, you’ve got to be able to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
If you don’t do that, then giving her time to heal will be a huge waste of time and will most likely result in her moving on.
It’s true that cutting off contact with a woman after a breakup can get her back in some cases.
For example: If a woman is inexperienced with relationships and can’t handle the pain of a breakup, then she will most likely contact her ex when he doesn’t contact her.
Another example is where she is still in love with her ex guy and when he doesn’t contact her, it hurts her so much.
She can’t get over not being with him.
In those cases, it can work, but here’s the thing…
I’ve been helping guys to get women back for many years now and I rarely come across a case where the woman is still in love with her guy and she can’t deal with not being with him anymore.
Guys who are in that situation don’t really need help to get their ex back!
The majority of guys who need help to get their ex back are in a situation where their woman doesn’t want to be with him anymore.
She has lost respect for him, she doesn’t feel attracted to him anymore and she’s no longer in love with him.
She doesn’t want to be in the relationship.
So, when he cuts off communication and just waits and hopes that she will come running back to him, it doesn’t happen.
Additionally, when he’s been cutting off communication for 30 days, he’s been going through a living nightmare, a living hell.
He’s been worrying the whole time, missing her, hasn’t been able to eat or sleep properly.
Food that he usually enjoys just doesn’t taste so good anymore.
He’s not really interested in things that he used to be interested in.
He’s just thinking about her and missing her.
Yet, he’s not improving his chances of getting her back because she doesn’t feel respect and attraction for him.
She’s not in love with him.
So, the fact that he isn’t contacting her doesn’t mean much to her at all. She doesn’t really care.
What I’ve found is that in cases like that, a guy needs to be active rather than inactive.
By active, I mean that the guy needs to actively improve his ability to re-attract his ex.
He needs to get prepared to interact with her on the phone and in person so he can properly re-attract her.
He can make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
He then needs to actively get her on a phone call and actively get her to meet up with him and actively attract her. He needs to do something about it.
By inactive, I mean that a guy just cuts off communication with his ex and hopes that she comes back because he’s cutting off communication.
What I want you to know is that it’s a myth that you can get pretty much any woman back by simply cutting off communication with her.
It is true that some women will come back if a guy cuts off communication, but those women are the minority.
Those women are the ones who are still in love with their ex, can’t move on without him, they’re inexperienced with relationships and can’t find a suitable replacement guy.
Here’s the thing…
Even if a woman is kind of missing her ex because he hasn’t been contacting her, he runs the risk that she will then find a new guy more interesting and attractive and hook up with him.
If she was kind of hurting because he wasn’t contacting her, a woman will usually try to fast-track their relationship.
She will hook up with a guy very quickly and focus on all of his good qualities so she can fall in love with him.
The new guy might not be perfect for her, but she’s going to try to make herself feel better about the fact that her ex hasn’t been contacting her.
Of course, that’s if she actually cares at all.
A lot of women don’t care about their ex guy after they’ve broken up with him because they don’t feel respect, attraction and love for him anymore.
When she broke up with him, she was over it.
She didn’t want to be with him anymore.
He wasn’t able to make her respect him.
He wasn’t able to make her feel attracted in the way that she wanted and she wasn’t in love with him anymore.
So, when he stops communicating with her, he simply makes it easier for her to move on.
He doesn’t interrupt the process of her getting over him by re-attracting her and getting her back.
What I always recommend is that a guy gives his woman 3 to 7 days of space.
During that time, he doesn’t just sit around doing nothing!
He improves his ability to re-attract her.
He gets ready to re-attract her on the phone, to re-attract her in person.
Then when he does actually contact her on the phone and meet up with her in person, he re-attracts her, he makes her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
What I’ve found is that in ex back cases where the woman doesn’t want anything to do with the guy anymore, that is the only thing that works.
Sometimes it does work to cut off communication when the woman is inexperienced, she can’t move on, etc., but in most cases, it just doesn’t work and the guy ends up missing out on his opportunity to get her back.
He could have got her back in so many of those cases, but by simply believing in that myth that cutting off communication gets any woman back, he misses out on getting her back.
The thing is, it kind of sounds tough to say that you only want a relationship or nothing.
It’s like, “Hey – I don’t stand for that. If you don’t want to be anything other than my girlfriend or my wife, then I can’t have anything to do with you. I won’t accept that. A friendship isn’t good enough for me. You have to give me a relationship or nothing.”
It sounds tough.
It sounds cool.
It sounds like you’re standing your ground, yet it doesn’t actually work to get an ex woman back in almost all cases.
She doesn’t feel respect, attraction and love for the guy.
She’s over it.
She wants to break up with him.
Why is she going to commit to a full-on romantic, sexual, loving relationship when she’s not even feeling respect, attraction and love for him?
A comparative example of that is like going up to a woman in a bar and saying, “Hey, look. If I’m going to talk to you, I need a guarantee that you actually want to have sex with me tonight. I don’t want to stay in here talking to you for 30 minutes or an hour and then I don’t end up banging you. Look. I find you attractive. I want to have sex with you, so just make it clear for me now that if I talk to you, you’re going to let me bang you.”
Of course, that approach doesn’t work.
It might sound cool, it might sound tough, it might sound like, “Yeah! That’s how we should talk to women!” but it’s not going to work unless the woman is really drunk or really unattractive.
Most women are going to be saying things like, “Get away from me,” because the attraction isn’t mutual yet.
You see, most men can feel instantly attracted to a woman’s physical appearance and want to have sex with her regardless of what she’s interested in, what she wants to talk about, what brand of clothes she’s wearing and all that sort of stuff.
The guy finds her attractive.
He wants to have sex with her.
Yet, for a woman to want to have sex with a guy, he needs to be able to make her feel attracted when he talks to her.
That way, it’s a fair value exchange.
She’s feeling attracted, he’s feeling attracted. “Okay, now it’s mutual. Let’s get something going on.”
The same principle of there needing to be mutual attraction applies when you’re getting an ex back.
In order for a woman to want to get back with her ex, he needs to make her have feelings for him again so the feelings are mutual.
If she says that she’s willing to be friends with him and keep the lines of communication open and he goes and says, “Well, no. I only want a romantic relationship with you. If you’re not interested in a serious relationship, then I can’t have anything to do with you. It’s too difficult for me.”
If he does that, he’s jumping the gun.
He’s trying to get the result before he’s even put in what is required to get the result, which is create mutual feelings.
He feels attracted to her, he feels in love with her, but he’s got to make her feel the same way first.
So, that’s another myth that you’ll come across out there where people say that it’s cool and tough to not accept a friendship with your ex initially.
Some people will have the opinion that you have to stand your ground and say that you only want a romantic relationship.
Yet, that just doesn’t work because the feelings aren’t mutual at that point.
It’s like walking up to a woman in a bar and saying, “Hey. I’m only going to talk to you if you suck me off tonight. I’m only going to talk to you if you end up going home with me and I can bang you. Otherwise, I’m not going to waste my time.”
It sounds cool, it sounds tough, but that’s not what actually works.
What works is when you make a woman feel attracted to you.
You make her feel respect.
You make her feel love.
You create a situation where there are mutual feelings.
When there are mutual feelings, a woman wants more than just a friendship.
This is why the myth that you should never ever accept a friendship situation with your ex initially, causes so many guys to lose their ex woman.
He could have gotten her back, but he said no to an opportunity to re-attract her.
What I recommend that you do instead is that you accept the friendship, but you don’t act like a friend.
Think about it when you’re picking up women, when you’re on a date or even when you’re in a relationship.
If you want the woman to want you sexually, you don’t just act like a friend.
If you’re meeting a woman for the first time and you don’t make them feel sexually attracted to you and you just make them see you as a friend, then they’re not interested in almost all cases.
If you’re on a date with a girl and you’re not flirting with her and creating a spark, she’s just going to say, “I think we’re better off as friends. Let’s just leave it at that.”
If you’re in a relationship or a marriage and you treat your woman like a friend and you just act like a friend, then the sexual spark is going to die out.
Likewise, when you’re getting your ex back, you have to focus on actively making her feel sexually attracted to you.
How can you do that?
You’ve got to be able to interact with her.
You’ve got to be able to talk to her on the phone and meet up with her in person.
What better way to do that than to be friends?
Of course, you’re not going to be her friend if you’re making her feel sexually attracted!
The relationship is going to get back together naturally (and very quickly, if not instantly) on the basis of attraction.
She is going to feel sparks of sexual and romantic attraction for you and as a result, she simply won’t be looking at you as a “just a friend.”
Where guys go wrong is that they accept a friendship with their ex and then they act like a friend.
They are nice and neutral and sweet and supportive and they listen and they’re patient and they’re understanding and blah, blah, blah.
That doesn’t make a woman feel turned on.
Women do like it when a guy is a good guy and all that sort of stuff, but what is most important is that when you’re interacting with her, you make her feel a sexual spark with you.
You make her feel a romantic spark with you.
You make her look at you as not being just a friend.
Breadcrumbs from an ex are essentially any type of contact or interest shown, where she doesn’t directly ask to have a relationship with you again (e.g. she texts you, “Hey, how are you?” or clicks like on one of your posts on social media).
This myth is tied up into the whole No Contact madness that you’ll find out there online.
People will say, “If you go No Contact, it means no contact. If your ex contacts you and she says anything other than ‘I want to get you back’ just ignore her text. Ignore anything that she sends to you.”
Yet, here’s the thing…
Women don’t always say what they want directly.
Sometimes they just give you hints and subtle cues and they show a little bit of interest.
Sometimes a woman is afraid that you’re going to reject her.
She’s afraid that you’ve gotten over her and when she sends you a message and says that she wants to get back with you, you’re going to say, “No. I’m not interested,” and then she is going to be the one who is feeling her after the breakup.
She broke up with you, so she got away with feeling a lot of the pain that the person who gets dumped feels.
So, what women will often do when they want to get their ex back who isn’t contacting them is that they’ll send little messages here and there.
She might say, “I miss you.” She might say “Happy birthday.” She might say, “I left something at your house that I want to pick up.”
She might ask you something random about whatever.
Yet, what you’ll find out there online when people are discussing how to get their ex back on forums, is that they will say, “Just ignore anything that isn’t an explicit request to get back with you. If she just wants to send you bread crumbs and mess with your head, then don’t reply. Just give her some of her own medicine.”
That’s just not going to work in most cases, because most women aren’t going to be very direct about wanting you back.
They’re just going to give you hints and cues.
Additionally, what I’ve also found by looking at forums and I’ve read thousands of posts, by the way, is that women will often get on the forums and say, “I sent my ex a text and I want him back. And he didn’t reply. What should I do now?”
Then I read another forum post by a guy saying, “I want my ex back so bad. I miss her, but I’m doing No Contact. She sent me a text about something random and I ignored it. Am I doing the right thing?”
Pretty much everyone on the forum who hasn’t ever gotten an ex back will then chime in and say, “Yeah, yeah, just ignore her. If she’s not asking to get back with you, just ignore her.”
It’s just silly.
If you want to get your ex woman back, you have to be more mature about it.
You have to be the more emotionally strong one.
You have to be the man.
You have to be willing to take the risk to go through the process with her, go through the ex back process.
Get her back.
Take the risk to be the one who can potentially get rejected.
However, you’re not going to get rejected if you’re focused on attraction.
If you’re making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, then she is going to start to want to get back into a relationship with you.
She’s going to start feeling drawn to you.
She’s going to start missing you and thinking, “Why are we not together? Why am I imagining kissing him all of a sudden? Why am I imagining being in his arms again? Why do I want to be back with him?”
So it’s important to understand that there is a myth out there that you should ignore breadcrumbs or little teasers or feeler texts from your ex.
I say no to that.
I say be a man about it.
Take the opportunity and use it as a way to make her feel attracted to you again.
Joke around with her via text.
Get her on a phone call.
Get her to meet up with you and re-attract her the whole way.
Make her feel that renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
By the way…
An example of re-attracting your ex is to understand exactly where you were going wrong and where you turned her off.
In a lot of cases, this is going to be different to what your woman said to you when she broke up with you.
Sometimes a woman will say something like, “I just need space. I need time by myself. I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore. I don’t know if I’m in love with you anymore. I just don’t feel the same way anymore. I can’t be in a relationship at the moment” e assim por diante.
She’ll give you all sorts of random, vague reasons like that.
However, one of the real reasons that a woman will break up with a guy is that he’s just not man enough for her emotionally.
He’s too insecure or too emotionally sensitive.
He allows her to walk all over him or he thinks that letting her have most or all of the power is going to make her happy.
He’s just not man enough for her.
Now, in most cases, a woman doesn’t want to tell a guy that when she’s breaking up with him.
Many reasons but, to name a few…
One, she doesn’t want to feel like she’s his teacher in life about how to be a man.
Two, she doesn’t want to feel like the changes that he will make all of a sudden are fake. He might start acting like more of a man and go too far with it where he becomes domineering and very arrogant.
Number three, she’s worried about how he might react if she says something like that to him.
Sometimes a guy will react by crying. Sometimes a guy will react by getting angry and maybe even violent.
Sometimes a guy will react by begging and pleading and bombarding her with texts and phone calls.
Sometimes a guy will be showing up at her front door demanding that she speaks to him and demanding that she gives him another chance to prove that he is more of a man now.
So, those are some of the reasons why women don’t always tell the real reason why they’re breaking up with a guy.
If you want to properly re-attract your ex, you have to understand exactly where you were going wrong and what really turned her off.
When you interact with her, you have to be able to display that in how you talk to her, how you react to her, how you behave and so on.
A lot of people out there will say, “An ex is an ex for a reason. Just leave her. If she doesn’t want to be with you, then screw that bitch. She’s going to come back and it was meant to be, but if not, who cares? There’s plenty women out there. Why are you being so needy for? Just go get another woman.”
You’ll get that sort of opinion out there and it’s okay.
People are allowed to have different opinions.
Yet, just put that person in your situation and see what they’ll say then.
If a guy ruins his marriage or ruins his relationship with his girlfriend, he loves her, he really wants to be with her and he screws it up by making some mistakes, then she breaks up with him and he wants her back.
There’s nothing wrong with that. The guy made some mistakes. He’s a good guy. He wants to get his woman back. That is not needy.
If a guy mans up, improves, stops making the mistakes and re-attracts her, then he’s become a better man.
He’s also offering her a much better attraction and relationship experience now, so she wants the relationship just as much as he does.
She can truly respect him now.
She can truly feel attracted to him, whereas in the past, she only kind of felt attracted to him or she used to really feel attracted to him and then she stopped feeling attracted to him because he changed.
Likewise, the love can be so much better now because he’s such a better man.
He’s more of a complete man now that he has improved as a result of the lessons he’s learned from the breakup, so the love can be so much better.
Yet, you won’t necessarily get that kind of understanding from people out there when they hear that you’re being dumped and you want your ex back.
Some people will say to you that it’s needy, it’s desperate, it’s weak and all other types of negative things to get your ex back.
Yet, as I said, put that same person in a situation where they lose the love of their life and see how they react.
It’s totally normal and natural to love your ex woman and want her back.
If you become a better man, a more complete man and you can offer her a better attraction and relationship experience, then everyone wins.
You are a better man.
She gets a better man.
You and her get a better relationship experience, the love is more real, it’s more meaningful, it feels better and so on.
Of course, that said, some guys do get needy and desperate when they’re trying to get their ex woman back and that isn’t a good thing.
That doesn’t help them and it’s not nice for the woman either.
So, when a guy is being desperate and needy and he’s focusing on the fact that he really needs her back and his life is horrible without her and he can’t live without her, then he’s not doing what he needs to do to get her back.
He has to use the 3 to 7 days of space to quickly regain control of his emotions, calm down his thoughts and prepare to properly re-attract her.
If he’s not doing that and he’s just panicking and worrying and begging and pleading with her, texting her nonstop, asking for another chance, trying to convince her and so on, then it’s not going to work.
She is going to feel annoyed by that.
So, the thing is, it’s not needy to want your ex back if you go about it in the right way.
Going about it in the right way is where you calm down your thoughts, you regain control of your emotions and you prepare to attract her.
If you do that, then you are doing a good thing for yourself and you’re going to be offering something to her that she is going to enjoy.
When you meet up with her, you are going to make her feel so much respect, attraction and love for you.
She’s going to look at you in a positive light.
She’s going to realize that you really have changed and she really does feel differently around you now.
Things feel good.
She can feel the love.
She feels like she should give you another chance because it feels right to her.
Okay, I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and learned something useful from it.
If you need more help to get your ex back, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System
It’s a step-by-step system so you will know exactly what to do each step of the way.
You will learn exactly what to say and do to make her feel attracted to you so she wants to be back in a relationship with you.
It’s not just you wanting to be with her. She feels attracted to you. She feels respect for you. She feels love for you.
Trust Your Gut Instinct
One final point that I want to make for you in this video is to trust your gut instinct.
When you are thinking about whether or not you should just cut off communication with your ex and wait for her to come back, trust your gut instinct on that.
If you feel like she is going to miss you like crazy because you cut all contact with her and she’s going to text you and call you and want you back, then cut off contact with her.
However, if you feel like she doesn’t really care about you anymore, doesn’t care about the relationship, she doesn’t feel much respect for you, she doesn’t feel much attraction for you and she’s not in love with you, then you need to trust your gut instinct on that.
You need to imagine how it’s going to play out…
You stop contacting her and you just wait and hope that she comes back yet she moves on.
She finds a new guy.
She finds him attractive and interesting.
She gets into a new relationship and she just doesn’t care about the fact that you’re not contacting her anymore.
Likewise, if you feel like you need a lot of time to heal, then trust your gut instinct on that, but just understand one thing…
Many guys don’t get over their ex woman for YEARS, so waiting 30 days or waiting 60 days or waiting 90 days or any other type of number doesn’t guarantee that you’re going to heal and get over her and never want her back.
What I recommend is that rather than waiting for months or years to finally get over her, you calm down your thoughts, regain control of your emotions and prepare to re-attract her.
If you want to do that on your own, then you can go ahead and do that.
I have lots of free videos that you can watch about how to get your ex back.
I have also written loads of articles on my website about how you can get her back.
You can read and watch everything that I’ve created on the topic.
Alternatively, if you want to fast-track your success, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back Super System
When you watch the 10 hours of video, I will take you through the process of calming down your thoughts, regaining control of your emotions and preparing to re-attract her.
Most guys who watch my program are ready to contact their ex right after watching the program.
Some guys do need a week and some guys need a week and a half or so.
f you want to fast-track your success, I recommend that you watch my program.
Alternatively, if you can’t afford it or you want to take your time with it, I recommend that you watch as many of my free videos as you can and read as many of my articles on my website as you can because I always give out free tips.
I always focus on helping you understand what you need to do, boosting your confidence, giving you examples of how you can attract her and so on.
Finally, if you want to get your ex back, just understand that it’s not a needy thing to do.
In fact, it’s often a noble thing to do when a guy becomes a better man and gets his woman back and then has an even better relationship with her.
He becomes a man that she can respect, a man that she can feel truly attracted to and truly in love with.
This applies to boyfriend-girlfriend relationships and it also applies to marriages.
Sometimes a guy has his first girlfriend and he screws it up.
Sometimes a man is married and they had a great marriage before but he ruined his wife’s feelings of respect, attraction and love for him. He then gets her back and they have a happy family again.
Likewise, with a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, sometimes a guy is on his second or third relationship in life and he screws it up.
Yet, he then regrets it.
He knows that she is the one for him.
He wants to get her back.
He knows that the relationship can be better this time around.
There’s nothing wrong with you doing that.
There’s nothing wrong with you becoming a better man getting her back and enjoying an even better relationship than before.
You can do it so go and get her back.
How can you stop a break up before it happens?
How can you get a woman to change her mind and not go through with wanting to break up with you?
What you need to do is change your approach.
You need to start saying and doing things that make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
If you keep using the same old approach that you’ve been using, you’re going to get the same old results.
However, when I say that you need to change your approach, I don’t mean that you should make any of the following mistakes.
- Asking her what she needs you to change.
- Becoming extra nice, sweet or considerate.
- Doing extra chores around the house.
- Pouring your heart out to express how much you feel for her.
- Being romantic or having date nights.
- Ignoring her to hopefully make her realize how much she needs you.
- Giving her an ultimatum.
- Playing it cool and acting like everything is okay.
I will now go into detail with some of the mistakes…
1. Asking her what she needs you to change
When a man asks a woman what he needs to do to make her stop being so distant, be more affectionate, be in love with him like she used to, in most cases, she’s not going to tell them the real answer.
The main reason why is that a woman doesn’t want to be a guy’s teacher in life about how to be a man.
Another reason why is that in many cases she is embarrassed to tell him what she really wants.
For example: Sometimes a woman finds herself in a relationship with a guy who has become a bit of a pushover. He has become insecure and he doesn’t feel very confident in his attractiveness to her anymore and he puts up with her bad behavior just so he can stay with her.
What she would like to tell him is, “Hey, I actually need you to stop being so insecure about your attractiveness to me. I need you to believe in yourself and I need you to not put up with my BS. If I get out of line, I need you to put me back in my place in a dominant, but loving, way. I don’t want you screaming at me and getting aggressive, but I want you to put me back in my place in a dominant, but loving, way. I want you to make sure that you don’t let me walk all over you.”
Most women are embarrassed to admit that they want that sort of thing.
Likewise, most women don’t actually want to take on the teacher role for a guy and say, “Alright, look. Sit down. I’ll teach you how to be a man. This is what I need from you…”
She doesn’t want to take on that role because it’ll make her feel like his big sister or mother or teacher.
She wants to feel like she’s his woman.
She wants to be able to look up to him and respect him as her man.
She doesn’t want to look down on him as a boy or a little brother or a confused guy that she has to continually lift up and guide as they go through life.
She just wants a man who understands how to be a man now or a guy who is willing to figure it out and then start doing it.
So, if you’re in a situation where your woman wants to break up with you, do not rely on asking her what she wants you to do because she will either not be able to tell you because she’s embarrassed or she won’t want to tell you because she doesn’t want to feel like your mother or big sister.
The second mistake is becoming extra nice, sweet, or considerate. Third one, doing extra chores around the house.
Now, I’ll go into detail with the 4th mistake….
4. Pouring your heart out to express how much you feel for her
When a woman is thinking of breaking up with a man, it means that she has lost respect for him.
As a result, she will then stop feeling proper attraction for him. If that goes on for long enough, she’ll fall out of love with him.
So when a woman gets to the point where she actually says to a man, “Hey, I don’t feel the same way anymore, I think we should break up,” ou “I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore,” she’s not going to care about his feelings for her.
She doesn’t have strong feelings for him anymore because she’s fallen out of love.
He lost her respect and she stopped feeling attraction for him as a result and fell out of love.
So, if the guy actually wants her to care and wants her to stay with the relationship, he needs to change his approach and start saying and doing things that make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
In some cases, a guy can pour his heart out to his woman and get another chance.
This will happen if the woman is young or inexperienced with relationships.
Yet, for most women, when they get to the point where they actually say that they want to get out a relationship, they’re not going to change their mind unless the guy changes his approach.
When you change your approach to her, she changes how she feels.
When you start making her feel respect and attraction for you, she feels that.
Then she starts thinking, “Okay, I don’t want to break up with him anymore because I feel something for him now. I feel like I can love him again. I feel like there can be a future for us. I respect him again. I feel attracted to him. I actually want to be around him now.”
That is what matters.
You’ve got to focus on making her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
When you do that, she reconnects with the love that she used to feel for you.
The reason why I say reconnect is that love doesn’t actually die.
When a woman falls out of love with you, she simply disconnects from the love.
Yet, the love is still there in the background and she will reconnect with that if you make her feel respect and attraction for you again.
She will naturally reconnect with the love.
She’ll start having those loving feelings for you again.
She will look at you from a different perspective.
She will respect you now.
She’ll feel attracted to you again and as a result, she will start thinking about you in a positive light.
She’ll start thinking of things about you that she actually likes. When that happens, she’ll start to reconnect with the love.
5. Being romantic or having date nights
Like I said, in a previous example, if she doesn’t have strong feelings for you, then sucking up to her with date nights and being romantic isn’t going to mean crap to her.
You can be as romantic as you want to be, put some candles out, take her to an expensive dinner, doesn’t mean a thing if she doesn’t actually respect you.
If she has lost respect for you and you don’t get that back, nothing that you do is going to work.
You can take her on the most romantic date that the world has ever seen but inside of her, she’s still going to feel like she wants to break up with you because she doesn’t actually respect you.
She might enjoy the date and be laughing and happy for that time, but when the date is over and she’s interacting with you and realizes that you’re still making the same mistakes that caused her to lose respect for you, then she’s still going to want to go through with the break up.
6. Ignoring her to hopefully make her realize how much she needs you
This will work when a woman is just being a pain in the butt and she really does love and respect her man, but she just wants to mess with him by threatening to break up with him.
So, if he then ignores her and just gets on with his life without her, she’s going to feel like she doesn’t want to break up and she wants to be with him.
Yet, if a woman wants to break up with a guy that she has lost respect for and is not feeling attracted to anymore and is fallen out of love with, then him ignoring her isn’t going to mean much to her at all.
If the woman has some experience with relationships, she’s just going to use that time that he’s ignoring her to move on.
She’s going to go out with her girlfriends and meet some guys or she’s going to let the guy who has been hitting on her at work take her out on a date or she’s going to get on an online dating app or an online dating site and have 100s of guys overnight who want to meet up with her for a date.
The thing is if a woman threatens to break up with a guy and he thinks, “Alright, well, I’m just going to start ignoring her now and teach her a lesson,” it can work in some cases, but if the same problems exist in the relationship when she starts interacting with him again, she’s still going to want to go through with the break up.
If he’s still saying and doing things that cause her to lose respect for him and she isn’t able to look up to him and feel respect and feel attracted and be in love with him, then she’s going to want to go through with the break up.
Additionally, if she senses that he’s trying to play mind games with her by ignoring her all of a sudden, she might decide to get revenge by going and hooking up with another guy.
So, if your woman wants to break up with you, don’t run that risk of pushing her into the arms of another guy.
Simply change your approach.
When you change your approach, she changes how she feels.
When she changes how she feels, she changes her mind.
She doesn’t want to go through the break up anymore because she feels respect and attraction for you now.
She feels that love that she used to feel for you. She feels good around you now. She wants to be around you.
7. Giving her an ultimatum
Giving an ultimatum and saying, “Hey, you either decide to be with me now or leave,” can work in some cases.
For example: If the woman is inexperienced with relationships and can’t handle the pain of going through a breakup, if she thinks that she’s not going to be able to move on quicker than him, or if the problems in the relationship really aren’t that bad and can be worked through.
However, if a woman doesn’t respect her guy and isn’t feeling much attraction for him anymore and has fallen out of love with him, she’s not going to really care about his ultimatum.
She doesn’t have strong feelings for him at that point, so it feels like there’s more benefit breaking up with him than actually staying with him.
When he gives her the ultimatum, she say something like, “Okay, cool. Let’s breakup then,” and she leaves.
If she’s inexperienced with relationships or can’t handle the pain of the break up, she’ll come running back.
However, if she’s experienced with relationships and can move on, she’s going to move on because she’s leaving behind a guy that she doesn’t even respect, doesn’t feel strong attraction for anymore and isn’t in love with.
That is why if you want to stop a break up, you have to change your approach.
You’ve got to start saying and doing things that make her feel respect and attraction for you again.
You got to make her feel that renewed sense of respect and attraction.
She then starts to look at you differently. She looks at you in a positive light. She starts feeling good around you again, she reconnects with the love and then she doesn’t actually want to break up with you.
There’s more benefit in staying with you than breaking up with you.
8. Playing it cool and acting like everything is okay
The thing is, if a woman is considering breaking up with her man, then everything isn’t okay.
What guys need to understand about women is that they don’t actually want to go through a break up.
Most women don’t want to be that woman who is unlucky in love. She’s always getting in and out of relationships and getting hurt.
She always has to face up to her family and friends and say, “Yeah, we broke up,” and be that woman who’s unlucky in love.
Her friends and family members and coworkers are in happy relationships and enjoying life and she’s breaking up all the time.
She doesn’t want to be that woman.
She just wants a man that she can be proud of, a man that she can look up to and respect and feel attracted to and be in love with.
She doesn’t want to have to go through break up after break up.
She wants to have a relationship that works, so you and her can reach new levels together as a couple.
So, if you want to stop a break up before it happens, you need to make sure that you are willing to change your approach.
For example: If a guy has become insecure in a relationship with a woman, he suddenly becomes confident. Nothing that she says or does makes him lose confidence in himself.
Another example is where a woman will throw tantrums and insult her guy and he will usually become angry about that. Suddenly, he changes and he’s able to turn situations like that into something to laugh about together.
For example: A couple is driving along in a car and a woman tests her man by saying something like, “You’re such a crap driver. Get in the right lane. What are you doing?” and rather than getting angry at her and feeling insulted he just turns it into something that they can laugh about together.
He might say, “Yeah, it’s true. I’m the worst driver in the world. I should probably get a trophy for it” and then continues driving along.
She then looks at him as a man that she can respect.
He doesn’t lose control of his emotions.
He’s cool and calm and confident under pressure. Nothing that she says makes him lose control.
He’s a man that she can rely on, he’s a man that she can look up to and respect and he’s also a man who makes her feel happy.
He’s able to create moments of laughter. He’s able to get her smiling.
He’s able to turn situations that would make other couples get into fights into something that they can laugh about together and feel good about.
Avoiding a Break Up and Keeping Your Relationship Together
Okay, so I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and learned something useful from it.
If you’d like to learn more, I recommend that you watch or listen to my program, Make Her Love You for Life.
When you watch or listen to the program, you will learn exactly what to say and do to make your woman respect you, feel sexually attracted to you, and be totally in love with you for life.
When you start using the techniques from the program, she will not want to break up with you.
She will change how she feels and as a result, she will change her mind about wanting to break up with you.
What I want you to know is that you actually have a lot of control over the situation.
You may feel like the situation is out of control at the moment because she wants to break up but what you’ve got to understand about women is that they are reactive.
Women react to the dynamic that men create.
If you create a dynamic in a relationship where she respects you and feels attracted to you and is happy to be with you and is in love with you, she will go along with that.
She will react to your lead.
However, if you create a dynamic in the relationship where she doesn’t respect you and she doesn’t feel happy with you, she doesn’t really feel attracted to you, and she’s falling out of love with you and she’s distant, she will go along with that as well.
In most cases, women don’t want to take on the leadership role and fix the relationship themselves.
They want to be with a man who can take the lead and guide the relationship towards deeper feelings of respect, attraction, and love.
When you start doing thats she will stop wanting to break up with you.
When you change your approach, she changes how she feels.
Sos if you want to stop the break up, just make sure that you are willing to change your approach to her.
When you do that, she will change how she feels and as a result, she will change her mind about the break up and want to stay with you.
Women always test their man regardless of how happy the relationship is.
Some guys know how to handle the tests that women dish out, but other guys don’t.
When a guy doesn’t know how to handle his woman’s tests, he will end up getting into arguments with her and destroying the feelings of love between them.
Alternatively, he will hand over his power to her in the hope that it makes her happy and makes her stop testing him and making life difficult for him.
Examples of Power Struggle Tests
So, what are some examples of the tests that women put men through to gain power over them in a relationship?
1. Saying that he has put on weight, has become too thin or is losing his hair.
A man’s girlfriend or wife might say, “Oh, you have become really thin these days. You don’t even have muscles.”
Women often say these sort of things to see if they can gain power over you.
Are you going to become insecure or are you going to maintain confidence in yourself?
If a man becomes insecure and feels like he’s not worthy of his woman, she then gains a little bit of power over him.
He feels like she’s more attractive than him and that he’s really lucky to have her. He may then start to treat her even more nicely and try to suck up to her and begin to fear that he’s going to lose her.
2. She gives him the silent treatment.
A common reaction from a man in this situation is that he panics and worries that he’s losing her.
He might then begin to suck up to her and try to be even nicer to her which is essentially handing over more and more power to her.
3. Saying, “No” to his requests.
Common reactions from men: Getting angry, annoyed, or frustrated, or begging, pleading, or sucking up to her.
A guy might also decide to just let her have her way all the time so he doesn’t have to try to get her to comply with his requests, yet he then loses power.
She then loses respect for him, and as a result, she doesn’t really feel much attraction for him anymore and begins to fall out of love with him.
Passing the Tests to Move to the Next Level of Love, Respect and Attraction
Some men know how to handle the tests that women put them through in a relationship and as a result, they maintain their position of power and deepen their woman’s feelings.
They don’t become flustered and get angry or insecure when their woman is testing them.
Men who understand how women think and how they operate, know that women test for a reason.
A woman is testing because she wants to make her man a stronger man.
She wants to see if he’s capable of standing up for himself.
By the way: Standing up for himself in a relationship isn’t about being angry and getting aggressive and intimidating his woman. Instead, it’s about being assertive and dominant in a loving way.
Say for example, a man and a woman are sitting on a couch and the man says to the woman, “Come here,” and wants her to essentially come and sit next to him and cuddle into him.
She then says, “No” to his request.
What should he do at that point? Should he get angry at her and be aggressive and say, “Hey, come and sit next to me!!”
Should he become insecure and start to doubt that she likes him and loves him and wants to be with him? No, that’s not the answer either.
Instead, he needs to be dominant and assertive in a loving way.
For example: He says, “Come here. Come and sit over here,” and she says, “No,” and then he just reaches over and brings her over towards him, and say, “Come here,” and simply brings her over towards him.
Now, he’s not forcing her against her will. They’re in a relationship together. They’re sitting next to each other on the couch.
She’s just testing him.
She’s testing to see how he’s going to react.
Is he going to become insecure? Is he going to get angry at her? Is he going to start sulking?
Those are the reactions that she doesn’t want to see.
She wants to see a strong man who maintains his composure and is still able to be a loving man even though he’s being dominant and assertive.
If he can do that, he passes the test and the love, respect and attraction that she feels for him goes to another level.
If you want to learn many examples of how to win the power struggle in your relationship, make your woman respect you, feel attracted to you and love you for life, I recommend that you watch my program Make Her Love You For Life.
Make Her Love You For Life is available on video and it’s also available on audio.
When you watch or listen to the program, you will learn exactly what to say and do to make your woman love you for life.
You will learn how to make her respect you and look up to you as her man.
You will discover how to make her feel sexually attracted to you for life. You will also learn how to deepen the love that both of you feel for each other.
You will learn how to communicate with her in a way that strengthens the bond that you share and you will learn exactly how to make her only want to be with you for life.
Where a lot of you guys go wrong is that they think that a woman will stop trying to test them later on in a relationship.
Some guys think that the nicer they are to a woman and the more things they do for her, the less she will test.
He is essentially trying to suck up to her and be the best man that he can in the hope that she is gentle with him and stops trying to test his confidence by seeing if she can gain power over him.
Yet, that is never going to happen.
A woman will always test.
It doesn’t matter how amazing your relationship is, a woman will always test.
So, you need to understand how to pass those tests, otherwise your woman loses respect for you.
When a woman loses respect for you, she then can’t feel proper sexual attraction for you and when that happens, she starts to fall out of love with you.
Winning the power struggle in your relationship isn’t about making her lose, but it’s simply about being the man that she can look up to and respect.
It’s about being the man that she can rely on to be strong all the time.
No matter what she says and does, you always remain strong. She cannot gain power over you. That’s actually what she wants.
She doesn’t want a man who puts her down, demeans her and doesn’t let her say or do anything. That is not being in the position of power in a loving way.
What she really wants is a man who maintains the position of power while also be loving, caring and supportive towards her.
Women are embarrassed to admit it when asked in public, but the truth is that a woman wants to be in a relationship where she is so in love with you, so attracted to you and so respectful of you that she feels compelled to be her BEST BEHAVIOR to please you and maintain your interest in her.
A woman WANTS to have that feeling where she is eager to impress you and make you happy.
That actually makes HER happy.
Of course, it makes you happy too because you get an awesome woman who loves you and is so good to you.
So, if you want to experience the ultimate kind of relationship, watch Make Her Love You For Life and I’ll teach you my secrets right now.
How can you make a woman never want to leave you?
How you can make sure that she always wants to be with you?
Well, the thing is, at the start of a relationship between a man and a woman, it’s very easy for a woman to say things like, “Oh, I love you so much. I want to be with you forever. I want to grow old with you. I want us to be together and never break up. Give me your word that you’ll be with me forever,” and all that sort of stuff.
Yet, that doesn’t mean anything if later on in the relationship her feelings of respect, attraction and love start to be ruined by the guy.
For example: If a guy is confident at the start of a relationship and his woman falls in love with him and they have great sex together and they go on nice dates and holidays and vacations, but he eventually becomes insecure, needy and clingy, then the promises that she made before don’t mean anything.
She’s going to change her mind about what she said to him before.
The way that it works is that a woman will go along with whatever relationship dynamic that you create and maintain.
For example: With the guy who became insecure and clingy and jealous, if he had remained confident and didn’t turn into that guy, then her attraction and respect and love for him would have been maintained and she would have gone along with that.
She’s got herself a man who is confident, she’s in love with, she respects and she feels attracted to. Great, so they stay together then!
Yet, if he changes and becomes insecure and clingy and jealous then okay, she is stuck with an insecure, clingy and jealous guy.
Therefore her feelings are not going to change and she will begin to think about breaking up with him or cheating on him and then getting into a relationship with the new man.
The reason why a woman will do that is because women are not attracted and turned on by emotional weakness in men such as insecurity, neediness, clinginess and so on.
Women are attracted to confidence in men, self-belief, self-esteem, determination.
That’s the sort of thing that attracts women to men in the first place and maintains their attraction.
Women Wait to See Where You Take the Relationship
What you need to understand about women in relationships is that they essentially wait to see where it goes and where you take it. They follow the man’s lead.
If you think about when a woman is ballroom dancing with a man. What do women like?
They like it when the man leads.
The man leads the dance and she goes along with him.
She feels feminine and she enjoys it.
She doesn’t like it if a man just stands there awkward going, “Oh, I don’t really know what to do here. You lead.” If he does that, she has to take the lead and the dance feels awkward for her.
Now, think about what women do when it comes to dating. They go out to bars and clubs and places like that and what do they do? They stand around looking pretty. They’re waiting for the man to come over and take the lead and make something happen.
The same applies with relationships.
Women go along with what the man does and a woman is at her happiest when a man creates the relationship dynamic where she is his woman.
She’s not his friend, she’s not his partner, she’s not his neutral buddy or anything like that. She’s not 50-50 with him. She is his woman.
That’s what makes a woman the happiest.
You won’t hear many women admitting that in public because they’re embarrassed to admit that they want to be a man’s woman.
Yet, when you see a woman who is the happiest with her man and she looks at him with loving eyes, she cuddles into his arm, she kisses him, she’s attentive towards him, she respects him, she does nice things for him and she is happy doing that, that’s when she’s his woman.
It’s not when they’re neutral partners in love and they’re 50-50 and it’s not when she is the boss and he does whatever she says.
It’s also not when she’s a pain in the butt and he puts up with it.
It’s when she is his woman. She looks up to him, respects him and she actually gets pleasure and happiness out of being a good woman for him. When she does good things for him and is nice to him, it actually makes her happy.
Yet, a woman isn’t going to give that to a man unless he creates that type of relationship dynamic.
What women usually do is they give that at the start.
They’re often very passive at the start, might be a little submissive and be really nice to the guy to get him into a relationship.
Yet, if the guy doesn’t maintain the dynamic of him being the man and her being his woman, then the whole thing changes.
She begins to change.
She loses interest in having sex with him.
She stops being affectionate towards him. She stops respecting him and listening to what he says. She starts being a pain in the butt.
She starts wanting to get everything her way and if he doesn’t do it, she throws a tantrum or gives him the silent treatment.
At that point, a lot of guys will start to become angry, insecure or treat her badly because he wants to get her back for treating him badly.
Then, the whole relationship starts to fall apart.
Make Her Feel Like Your Woman
The secret of how to make a woman never want to leave you is to flip that switch in her mind that makes her your woman.
Not your partner, not your friend, not your equal buddy, none of that stuff.
That’s politically correct, confused people out there repeating things that they don’t really understand.
Those confused, politically people usually don’t know how to maintain a relationship between a man and a woman. They simply follow along with what they hear politically correct people talking about at work, on TV and in general life.
Yet, they fail to notice that most of those people are not happy in there relationships because the man is not clearly the man and the woman is not clearly the woman.
They more like friends or neutral partners in life and their sex life dries up in pretty much every relationship they get into.
The answer to the question of, “How can I make her never want to leave me?” is to make her feel like your woman, not your friend, buddy or partner.
Being a man’s woman is what a woman REALLY wants. It’s not what she will usually admit in public because it’s not politically correct to say it, but it’s what makes her the happiest when in a relationship with a man.
Just think about those women that you see that are so happy with their man.
When she cuddles into his arms, she looks at him with loving eyes, she’s attentive, she’s affectionate, she treats him well, she respects him, she listens to what he says, she’s his woman.
Then you think about those guys who get treated badly by their woman.
She’s a pain in the butt, she puts him down, she throws a tantrum and expects everything to go her way.
In relationships like that, the man isn’t in the power position and he’s headed for a break up or he’s headed for getting cheated on or he’s headed for a divorce.
Be the Man She Never Wants to Leave
By the way…
If you’ve enjoyed this video and article and you’d like to learn more, I recommend that you watch or listen to my program, Make Her Love You for Life.
In the program, you’ll learn exactly how to make your woman respect you, feel sexually attracted to you and be totally in love with you for life.
When you have this knowledge, you don’t have to live in fear that your woman is going to cheat on you or leave you one day. You will know for sure that she is totally in love with you and only wants to be with you.
What you need to understand is that when you hear statistics like approximately 50% of relationships or marriages end in a breakup or divorce, what that actually means is that approximately 50% of relationships and marriages don’t end up in a breakup or divorce!
What you need to know is that it is possible to keep a relationship together for life and it is possible to make a woman love you for life.
Unfortunately, a lot of people just don’t get to experience that.
One study that I came across found that 60% of couples were unhappy in their relationship or marriage.
What do you think the problem is there?
In most cases, it’s going to be that the man hasn’t flipped that switch in his woman’s mind and made her become his woman.
That’s what she actually wants.
A woman is at her happiest when she loves and respects and feels so attracted to her man, that she gets pleasure out of doing nice things for him.
She gains pleasure from that.
She enjoys cooking for him, she enjoys sucking him off, she enjoys being nice to him, being affectionate, listening to him and being a good woman for him.
That actually makes her happy.
Yet, when you hear about men and women who are unhappy in their relationship, just take a look at the relationship dynamic.
The woman isn’t the man’s woman. They’re equal partners, neutral buddies or the woman is in charge and is wearing the pants.
That’s just not the way to have a happy, sexual, loving relationship with a woman.
What she wants and what a woman is waiting for when you’re in a relationship with her is to flip that switch in her mind. Make her be your woman.
Make her take on that role where she gains pleasure from doing good things for you. It makes her happy to be a good woman for you.
That’s what women really want.
Most Women Avoid Break Ups Unless Absolutely Necessary
Another thing to point out is that women are hardwired to not want to break up with their man.
If you think about what happens when a man and woman are in a sexual relationship, it can often result in the woman getting pregnant.
So, a woman has a natural tendency to want to make a man fall in love with her and stay with her.
If they happen to have a child one day, she doesn’t want to have to then raise that on her own or go out there and have to attract another guy and hopefully get him to accept the fact that she’s already got a child.
She has a natural tendency to want to find a man and stick with him.
So, you need to remember that women usually try to avoid breaking up with you unless they feel that it’s absolutely necessary (i.e. you don’t even know what she wants you to change, so giving you another chance would just mean more of the same).
In most cases, a woman will wait and give a guy plenty of chances to change and correct his mistakes.
Even after a break up, a woman will open to giving him another chance if he truly does change and starts being the kind of man that she can look up to and respect from now on.
She wants to go back to being good to him, loving him and being happy with him.
She’s not going to tell him that though. She wants him to figure it out on his own and start doing it.
So, when in a relationship with a woman, always remember this…
The best way to make a woman want to stick with you for life and never want to leave you is to flip that switch in her mind where she gets to be your woman.
Remember that what makes a woman the happiest is when you create the relationship dynamic where she wants to be good to you and please you. It actually makes her happy to do be like that for you.
Again though, you won’t get women admitting that in public.
They don’t want to go around saying that, but just look at the women who are the happiest with their man and that is how they behave.
Have you ever heard people say, “Relationships take a lot of hard work. You’ve got to put in loads of word and loads of effort all the time otherwise your relationship won’t work”?
Luckily for us men, those people are wrong.
They’re completely wrong.
I’ll give you an example…
Three Different Types of a Guys and One Woman
So, there are three different types of guys and one woman who’s being moody and bitchy and throwing tantrums.
With guy number one, he’s in a relationship with a woman and they’ve been together for a year. Suddenly, she starts becoming moody, she’s not affectionate anymore, is being bitchy and throwing tantrums all the time.
How does he react?
He reacts by trying to make her happier through gifts and taking her out to dinner and being really nice to her, doing house work and taking her on a holiday.
Yet, even though he does all that for her, she’s still being moody and isn’t being affectionate.
She doesn’t want to have sex with him, she’s throwing tantrums, she’s creating arguments over little things and she’s essentially being a pain in the butt.
For him, he’s going to think, “Damn, relationships are such hard work. It takes so much hard work to keep a relationship together. Women are so complicated. Why are they so hard to please?”
He doesn’t get it.
He’s in a relationship with a woman, they’ve been together for about a year, same story.
How does he react?
He reacts by getting angry at her for being like that.
He verbally attacks her and insults her. He is really frustrated at her and is saying things like, “Why are you being like this? I’m really good to you. We’ve had a relationship now for a year and all of a sudden you’re acting like this. What’s wrong with you? Why are you being like this?”
She then closes up and when he asks her what the problem is, she says nothing or says, “Figure it out yourself. Otherwise, we’re going to break up.”
He then thinks, “Well, relationships are such hard work! Women are such a pain in the butt. Why are women so complicated and hard to please?”
Yet, he doesn’t get it.
He’s in a relationship with his woman, they’ve been together for about a year and the same thing happens.
Suddenly, she starts becoming moody, she’s not affectionate anymore and she starts to create arguments over little things.
How does he react?
He doesn’t get worried about the changes in her behavior. He doesn’t overreact like the other guys have done.
Guy #1 overreacted by being really nice to her and doing nice things for her and buying her lots of things and Guy #2 overreacted by getting angry and emotional and attacking her.
Guy #3 simply takes control of the situation and changes her mood by getting her laughing and feeling good again. He cracks a joke, makes light of what’s happening or he makes fun of her in a playful way.
The reason why that works is that women don’t actually want to be a bitch to you.
They don’t actually want to be treating you badly.
A woman wants to be in love. She wants to be happy but a woman will go along with whatever relationship dynamic that you create.
With guy number one for example, a woman will go along with the relationship dynamic of him sucking up to her and doing whatever he can to hopefully please her. If that’s the relationship dynamic he creates, she will follow his lead.
Of course, she’s not going to stay with a guy like that forever. She’s going to cheat on him or break up with him at some point because she’s going to be unhappy. Yet, she will go along with it because women react to men and follow their lead.
Likewise, with guy number two, she’s going to go along with the angry, argumentative, conflict based relationship.
If the guy is being angry and verbally attacking her and turning things into a yelling match, she’ll go along with that. At the end of the day, that is the relationship dynamic that he will create.
It’s literally in his hands. He is in control. He is leading the relationship to that by reacting with anger, rather than being like Guy #3 and remaining in control.
So, with Guy #3, if he creates the relationship dynamic where when she throws a tantrum, or is being moody or is being difficult, he’s able to change her mood with humor and get her laughing and feeling good again, she goes along with that and she’s a good woman for him.
She follows his lead.
That’s the way women are.
Women are so much easier to work with than most guys realize. Most guys think that they have to do so much to please a woman, but women are so easy to work with in a relationship.
She is Waiting For You to Change the Dynamic
When a relationship has gone sour or is falling apart, the woman will literally be waiting for you to create the dynamic in the relationship that results in her being a good woman for you again.
That’s what she actually wants.
She wants to be good to you.
She wants the relationship dynamic where it actually makes her happy to please you sexually.
It actually makes her happy to do good things for you.
That’s what she really wants.
Learn More About How to Make a Relationship Easy and Effortless For You
Okay, so I hope you’ve enjoyed this video and article and have learned something from it.
If you’d like to learn more, I recommend that you watch or listen to my program, Make Her Love You for Life.
When you watch or listen to the program, you will learn exactly what to say and do to make your woman respect you, feel sexually attracted to you and be totally in love with you for life.
You will learn how to make a relationship easy by flicking on what I call the “Good Girl Switch” in a woman’s mind where she wants to be a good woman for you.
It actually makes her happy to do good things for you and to be a good woman for you. That is what she really wants.
Of course, you won’t get a lot of women going around admitting that.
Women are often very embarrassed to admit what they really want from a man in a relationship.
For example: If a woman were to go around and actually admit, “Yeah, I want to be with a man who makes me be a good woman to him,” some people are going to look down on her and maybe her friends will say things like, “Hey, get him to do things for you. Don’t be like that, get him to do the housework. Get him to suck up to you. You’ve got to be in a position of power, girl. Girl power. Women power. Be strong.”
She’s going to get those sort of reactions, so she avoids admitting what she really wants in a relationship with a man.
Yet, when you look at women who are the happiest in their relationship with a man, you will see that she is being a good woman for him. She loves doing good things for him. It makes her happy to be a good woman for him.
When you create and maintain that type of dynamic in a relationship, your relationship isn’t a lot of hard work.
It’s so easy.
Yet, if a guy creates the relationship dynamic where he has to suck up to his woman to get some action, then that’s a lot of hard work. She’s wearing the pants, she’s in control and he essentially has to do whatever she wants, otherwise she’s not happy.
Likewise, if a man creates and maintains the relationship dynamic of it being a screaming match and a war against each other, then that’s a lot of hard work.
It’s a constant battle of who’s right and who’s wrong and “You said this” e “I said that” e “This is not fair!” sort of relationship dynamic.
That’s a lot of hard work.
To avoid that nightmare, all you’ve got to do is give a woman what she really wants and that is the relationship dynamic where she actually gets pleasure and happiness out of being a good woman for you.
If you’re looking for advice now on how to get your woman back, you’ve no doubt tried a bunch of things already and it just hasn’t worked.
You might have been able to get some initial results with her when she was breaking up with you, and you might have been able to get another chance with her, but you’re most likely at the point now where nothing is working anymore.
She is not changing her mind.
She is not changing how she feels.
So, you’re stuck.
To help you with that, I’m going to give you the 5 best ways to get a woman back, so you can choose the quickest approach for you to get her back.
What I’ve found by helping hundreds of phone coaching clients now is that every relationship is unique, every break up is unique and you can’t just use the same techniques and tactics that you’ll find out there online to get every or any woman back.
You’ve got to tailor your approach to get her back and then follow that through to the end.
So, the way I’m going to explain this all for you is to first point out the low success rate techniques that guys use, and then give the five high success rate methods that I give my phone coaching clients to get their woman back.
10 Low Success Rate Ex Back Tactics and Techniques
Low success rate ex back tactics and techniques include:
- Begging and pleading.
- Promising to change.
- No contact.
- Not giving her any space at all.
- Crying to her.
- Asking her to help you to change.
- Pouring your heart out to her.
- Being her new ATM (i.e. buying her lots of things or paying her way in life).
- Trying to convince her to give you another chance via endless texts, emails and messages.
- Getting her friends and family involved.
So why are they low success rate tactics and techniques to use to get a woman back?
1. Begging and pleading
Begging and pleading is a low success rate tactic because a guy can usually get another chance with a woman by begging and pleading with her when she is initially breaking up with him, if she cares about him enough.
However, if she gives him another chance and he doesn’t really change and the dynamic of the relationship is really just the same, she’ll eventually break up with him again within a few days, a few weeks or a month or so.
Then, when he tries to beg and plead again, she will just say no and she won’t want anything to do with him unless he can get her back using other methods.
2. Promising to change
When a woman is breaking up with a guy initially, she will sometimes accept his promises to change and that’s why it’s a low success rate tactic in ex back situations.
Some guys are able to get a woman to give them that extra chance, but when she sees that he hasn’t changed and it’s still the same thing, she will most likely just break up with him again, and then when he promises to change, she won’t believe him.
3. No Contact
No contact essentially means not contacting a woman for 30 to 60 days after a breakup.
In most cases that I’ve seen over the years, avoiding a woman for that long just doesn’t work.
Of course, it does work in some cases where a woman really loves the guy and she can’t deal with the pain of their breakup and the pain of not having him in her life, so when he stops contacting her, she feels that pain, she contacts him and wants to get back together with him.
However, with the majority of ex back situations that I’ve dealt with over the years, a guy is at the point where his woman doesn’t have feelings for him anymore and she’s had enough.
When he stops contacting her, she just uses that time to move on.
This is why the No Contact Rule is a low success rate tactic to use to get a woman back.
It can sometimes work with women who are inexperienced with relationships and don’t really know what to do if their ex suddenly stops contacting them.
Yet, the majority of women will either contact their ex just to check that he’s still missing her, and if he is, then she thinks something like, “He’s using that no contact rule that people talk about online,” and then loses more respect and attraction for him as a result of trying to use a tactic like that on her.
4. No giving her any space at all
In some ex back cases, (e.g. when a guy has been clingy and needy and controlling and jealous), it is a good idea to give the woman 3 to 7 days of space before contacting her.
Any longer than that though and it’s just a waste of time because 3 to 7 days is usually more than enough time for a woman to calm down, feel like her ex isn’t stalking her and harassing her and things, and then she becomes open to interacting with him, meeting up with him, etc.
However, despite the fact that a little bit of space can help to get a woman back, it is also possible to get a woman back by not giving her any space at all.
Some guys are able to do that by jumping all over the situation, being in her face, constantly going around to see her, constantly meeting up with her, and then they get her back and they get another chance.
Yet, it’s not a high success rate technique because a lot of women get annoyed by that and they end up asking the guy to give them some space, and in most cases, the guy is not able to do that and he turns her off even more by being needy and clingy and desperate, and then she breaks up with him for real.
5. Crying to her
Not every guy makes this mistake, but some guys do.
About 30-40% of my clients have told me that they made the mistake of crying to their woman or breaking down and sobbing to her.
Sometimes, crying can make a woman give a guy another chance, because she feels sorry for him and she feels bad that she is making him feel that way.
However, it’s a very low success rate technique because women don’t feel respect and attraction when a guy can’t control his emotions in a moment like that.
She doesn’t want to see her man going to desperation mode and feel like he’s got no control over a situation and start crying like a boy would cry to his mother.
Over the years, some of my female friends have shared their thoughts with me while going through a breakup, and some of the things that I’ve heard women say about a guy who cried to them during a breakup include, “I’ve lost all respect for him at that point. I was disappointed to see him in that way. I just can’t look at him the same way anymore. I didn’t think he would be like that.”
Essentially what those women are saying is that they stopped looking at him as being their man. They stopped looking up to him.
Don’t stress and don’t worry if you have made any of the mistakes that I’m talking about so far. You can always recover from mistakes that you make with your girlfriend, fiancé, or wife.
These types of mistakes here where begging, pleading, trying to convince her, not contacting her, potentially crying, etc, are all recoverable. You can recover from it with a conversation where you get her to forgive you and to not see that as such a serious mistake.
6. Asking her to help you to change
This is a low success rate tactic because some women will be willing to help their guy change and improve, but the majority of women don’t want to be in a position where they are a man’s teacher in life about how to be a man.
A woman doesn’t want to feel like she’s in a mother-son, or big sister-little brother or teacher-student type of relationship.
She wants to feel like she is with a man that she can look up to, she is with a man who knows how to be a man without her instructions. She wants to have a ready-made man.
7. Pouring your heart out to her
In some cases, this can work because the woman might feel as though the man is really sincere, he really loves her, and there is no point getting rid of that love if it’s so strong, and she then gives him another chance.
Yet, in a lot of the cases that I’ve seen where a guy has poured his heart out to a woman, it’s been a situation where he is already being clingy and needy, or on the opposite end of the scale, he has taken her for granted and hasn’t really cared about her, and now that she has broken up with him, he is pouring his heart out, telling her how much he loves her.
The problem with that approach is that when a guy is pouring his heart out, he is often coming across in a way where he seems desperate and lost without her.
The thing is, a woman does want a man to love her and want her and appreciate her, etc., but she doesn’t want a guy to be pouring his heart out and giving her the impression that his whole life is destroyed and ruined without her in it.
She doesn’t want to have that sort of control over her man.
8. Being her new ATM
Some of the guys that I’ve helped via phone coaching have told me all sorts of things that they’ve bought for their woman, and ways that they’ve started to support her since the breakup.
For example: A guy taking his girlfriend for granted, she dumps him, and then he goes and buys her a really expensive ring. She takes the ring and doesn’t get back with him, and just keeps taking advantage of him and his generosity.
Other examples include paying for her expenses in certain areas of life, and also offering to buy her things to make her happy.
In some cases, that can get a woman back temporarily where she takes advantage of her guy and gets a bit of revenge on him, but in most cases, it just doesn’t work, because you can’t really buy a woman’s love.
A woman has to be able to respect you and look up to you and feel attracted to you in the ways that are really important in a relationship, and then the other things like buying her something every now and again is seen as a very welcome bonus and nice part of being with you.
Yet, buying her things, giving her money or paying for her expenses in life isn’t the way of getting a woman back.
9. Trying to convince her to give you another chance via endless texts, e-mails and messages
Pretty much every guy that I’ve helped has used this tactic.
Sometimes, it does get through to a woman, something that the guy says gets through to her and she then says, “Alright, I’ll give you another chance,” ou “Alright, I’ll meet up with you,” ou “Okay, you can come around or I’ll come around,” etc., and he gets another chance with her.
However, the reason why it’s a low success rate tactic to use to get a woman back properly is that it doesn’t last.
A guy might get an initial chance back with this woman by bombarding her with loads of messages and trying to convince her, but if the dynamic of their relationship is still the same and he’s still making the same communication mistakes in person, then she is most likely just going to breakup with him again.
10. Getting her friends and family involved
Sometimes, this tactic can get a woman back if the woman’s parents or friends really like the guy, and they put in a good word for him and they tell her to give him another chance.
Yet, in most cases, it’s one of those backfire techniques where when a guy does it, it makes the situation even worse.
People start saying bad things about him and start saying that she needs to distance herself from him because he is out of control.
The 5 Best Ways to Get Your Ex Back
Now that we’ve got the low success rate techniques out of the way, what I’m going to do now is give you the high success rate ways to get a woman back.
- Get her to forgive you, get her respect back, make her feel attracted to you, and then get her to agree to a two-week trial where you’re back together to see how it goes.
- Get her to forgive you, get her to feel respect for you, get her to feel attracted to you then hook up one last time when you meet up, and then ask for a two-week trial.
- Meet up with her, make her feel respect and attraction for you, and then hook up with her.
- Meet up with her, make her feel respect and attraction for you, get her to agree to another catch up, then at the next catch up, make her feel more respect and attraction and hook up with her.
- Get a new attractive girlfriend, make her feel jealousy and loss, meet up with her, have a discussion that results in mutual forgiveness of each other, make her feel respect and attraction for you, and hook up with her.
By the way..
Most guys don’t have to use the approach of getting a new, attractive girlfriend because the other methods work fine.
I know that most guys who want to get their woman back aren’t interested in dating other women right now. Thankfully, the other 4 approaches listed above work and what works even better is the 7-step solution that I provide in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
Get Your Ex Back: Super System is the very best approach that any guy can use to get his woman back. More than 100 of my phone coaching clients have successfully used the Get Your Ex Back: Super System approach to get their woman back and you can do it too.
What Are You Going to Do About Your Woman?
At this point, you’ve really got 3 options.
1. Do nothing
you might decide that you don’t want her back or you’re not prepared to do what it takes to get her back. You might then continue to live with the pain of not having her as your woman anymore and hope that you get over it at some point.
2. Take what you’ve learnt from this post and try to figure out what to say and do on your own
Some men are capable of getting a woman back on their own, but a lot of men really do need help at this point.
A guy will be feeling emotional, he will be feeling insecure, he might be panicking that he’s going to lose her, or that she’s going to fall deeply in love with another guy, and he really can’t control the way that he is acting and talking to her and interacting with her, and he needs some guidance.
So, if you feel like you can figure it out on your own, then I recommend that you go ahead and do that, but if you do need some help, I recommend that you have to think about option number three.
3. Get her back by following the simple steps in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
All you have to do is watch the 10 hours of video, and by the end of it, you’ll be ready to contact her and get her to respect you again, get her to feel attracted to you again, and get her to open up to giving you another chance.
My system is designed to get a woman back no matter what the situation is (e.g. if it’s a new relationship, if she lives overseas, if she lives with you, if you’re married, if you’re only together for one year, if you have children, if you don’t have children, if she hates you, if she kind of likes you, if she is seeing someone else) because the same fundamental rules apply.
What you’ve got to do is the same as what other guys have got to do.
You’ve got to get her respect you again, you got to get her to feel attracted to you and you’ve got to establish a new relationship dynamic. So if you want me to help you get her back, I recommend that you watch my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
It also comes with two bonuses.
The first bonus is all the Facebook, Phone and Text Message Examples from the Get Your Ex Back: Super System program.
So, it’s a quick reference guide.
Rather than you having to sift through the 10 hours of video and trying to find examples of what to text her and say to her on the phone, you’ve got all that in a quick reference PDF guide that you can open up on a phone, on a tablet, or on a computer.
The next bonus is Ultimate Make Up Sex and it’s 2 hours and 47 minutes of video. I explain exactly how to give her the type of sex that will completely change her mind about the breakup.
My Mission is to Help You
Something, I want to point out here for you is that all I really care about is you getting results.
I really do understand the situation that you’re in, because I went through it.
A long time ago, before the internet had people online helping each other out, I met a girl at a party and I got lucky with her, because I was a bit drunk, she was a bit drunk, and we started kissing and then we got into a relationship.
I became clingy and insecure, needy and jealous and she eventually went out with her sister and a friend one night, cheated on me, and then dumped me the next day over the phone.
To say that I was devastated is an understatement.
I was destroyed.
I was absolutely destroyed.
She was the love of my life, and everywhere I turned, people were just saying, “Oh, don’t worry about her. There are plenty of fish in the sea. You’ll find another girl. If it wasn’t meant to be, it wasn’t meant to be. Give it time. Time heals all wounds,” all that sort of crap.
They were telling me that kind of thing nonstop, but I didn’t want to hear it.
I wanted to get her back.
Back in that time though, there was no internet with people helping each other out. So, I was stuck.
What happened for me is that I went on after that for a couple of years or so, where I was lonely, and I couldn’t get an attractive woman, somewhat unattractive women were interested in me, but I wasn’t interested in that.
I wanted to get my ex back, or to get a new, hot, attractive woman, but I just didn’t know how to attract women.
Eventually, I got to the point where I had enough of missing out on love and sex and relationships, so I decided to go out and approach women every weekend until I worked out how to actually attract women on purpose, how to have my choice with women.
Initially, approaching and meeting new women was a horrible experience. I got rejected constantly, because I didn’t know what I was doing, but eventually, I worked out the secrets.
I went on to have sex with more than 250 women. I lived the Playboy lifestyle for about 10 years and really enjoyed that and then I found the girl of my dreams.
She was 20 when I met her, and I was 35, and we’re now married. I’m 38, she is 23, and we are very happy married. We’re at the point now where we’re working on starting a family.
So, it didn’t turn out so bad in the end for me after all. I ended up with a very beautiful wife and we’re very happy.
But if I had a time machine, I would definitely want to go back and give myself the advice that I have in my “Get Your Ex Back: Super System” program and say, “Dan, guess what, you can get her back. Don’t listen to all these other people saying that you can’t get a woman back. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. If she walks away, and doesn’t come back, then it’s not meant to be, all that sort of crap is crap. You can get her back. Here is what you got to say, here is what you got to do, go on do it.”
I then would have gotten her back.
But, I suppose, I wouldn’t have been sitting here now ready to help you.
What I am going to teach you in Get Your Ex Back: Super System is proven to work. I created the ex back process by helping more than a hundred phone coaching clients to get their woman back.
I’ve helped guys from all over the world who were trying to get women back at a point where she was saying, “No, get away from me. I don’t want anything to do with you. I don’t have feelings for you anymore” and he then got her back.
What you’re going to learn in Get Your Ex Back: Super System turns the situation around and makes her want you back.
You really can make her feel differently about you, even if she currently doesn’t want anything to do with you.
As you might have noticed throughout life, you can go from disliking someone when you first meet them to liking them.
You can go from disliking a person that you’ve known for a while and then they change the way that they interact with you and they talk to you in a different way, and then you start liking them, and you might even really like them.
That’s how the psychology of human emotions work.
Human emotions are not set in stone. They’re not unchangeable.
You can make her feel respect for you again. You can make her feel attracted to you again. You can bring down her guard, and when her guard is down, you can guide her back into a relationship.
Get Your Ex Back: Super System – Frequently Asked Questions
The other thing that I want to do for you in this video is answer a bunch of frequently asked questions that I get about Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
- How quickly will I get the program?
- Will it work for my situation?
- What is she says that it’s too late to get her back?
- How fast can I get her back?
- What if she’s already seeing someone else?
- What if she has blocked me on social media and won’t answer my calls or texts?
- What if she doesn’t want to give me another chance?
1. How quickly will I get the program?
That’s an easy one to answer. It’s an instant download. You will also have lifetime access to come back in and watch it at any time in your customer account and you can download it on as many devices as you want — your phone, your tablet, your computer, etc.
2. Will it work for my situation?
I understand that every situation is unique.
Your situation is not the same as other guys, but the fundamentals remain the same.
You need to get her to respect you, get her to feel attracted to you and establish a new, better relationship dynamic.
When you approach it in that way, it does work.
The woman does change the way that she feels. Her guard does come down, and you can guide her back into a relationship.
3. What if she says that’s it’s too late to get her back?
Não se preocupe.
Most woman say that when they go through a breakup. They say things like, “Get away from me. I don’t have feelings for you anymore. É tarde demais. I don’t want to be with you. I’m over it.”
Yes, that’s how she is feeling at the point of the breakup, but you can change the way that she feels. Other guys gotten a woman back even though she wasn’t initially interested and so can you.
4. How fast can I get her back?
Some guys are able to get their ex back immediately, some guys need a few days, some guys need a week or two, and sometimes it takes a bit more than a month or so.
It really depends on how strong the relationship was and how bad the breakup was.
For some guys, they finish watching the 10 hours of video and they then contact their ex and get back with her.
Some guys contact their ex, they arrange a time to meet up, they meet up with her, and then she’s a little bit stubborn for a while, she doesn’t want to meet up, she’s still a bit 50-50, and then they’re able to get her back the next week.
Some guys are blocked from everything (i.e. social media, phone, in person visits), and she doesn’t want to talk to them, so they need to use techniques prior to being able to get her on the phone, to be able to get her to answer a text, get on the phone, and then meet up with him.
Sometimes, that process (of getting her to unblock and be willing to meet up) can take a couple of weeks depending on how bad the break up was and how turned off the woman is.
It really depends on your situation, but what I can guarantee for you is that my approach to getting a woman back is the fastest way to get her back because it’s not about ignoring her.
I’m not telling you, “Hey, go no contact and stop talking to her for 30 or 60 days.” Instead, I’m saying, “Get this done now.”
I’m saying watch the 10 hours of video, and at the end of the 10 hours of video, start getting her back right away. Start contacting her and start doing what you need to do to get the relationship back together.
5. What if she’s already seeing someone else?
A lot of guys start off at this point, but they still get her back.
In my program, I explain exactly what to text her and what to say to her on the phone to get her to agree to meet up with you regardless of how close she is with this new guy and how protective this new guy is of her.
The way that I recommend that you explain the meet up to her is a non-threatening meet up. The new guy doesn’t have anything to worry about and he has to accept it. She just has to go and catch up with you.
When you get her to catch up with you and interact with you in person, that is when the real magic happens.
That’s when all of my attraction techniques and persuasion techniques start to come into play, and you’re able to get her to forgive you, get her to feel respect for you, get her to feel attracted to you, and get her to bring her guard down and open back up to having feelings for you again.
6. What if she has blocked me on social media and won’t answer my calls or texts?
This is actually pretty common, so don’t think that you’re the only one who is in that situation.
A lot of guys are at a point where their woman has either blocked them or is no longer responding.
All of the texts, social media messages, examples of what to say when you actually get her on the phone are all included in my program, and if she has completely blocked you and you’ve only got email, you can also send a message via email to get her to unblock you, answer a text, and get on the phone call with you.
7. What if she doesn’t want to give me another chance?
In my program, I provide two plans of action.
The first plan is Plan A and the second plan is Plan B.
Plan A most guys are able to get their woman back by following that strategy. However, in extreme ex back situations, where the woman is very stubborn and she is continuing to say no matter how much respect and attraction you make her feel, you then need to go to Plan B.
Plan B makes her feel a whole range of painful and positive emotions as well as making her feel more respect and attraction for you, and you can then contact her again, meet up with her, and get her to give you another chance.
Hundreds of guys have already used my programs to get woman back and I’ve help countless guys via my phone coaching service, and you can do it too.
You are capable of making her feel differently. You are capable of getting her to bring her guard down.
All you have to do is watch the 10 hours of video, and then begin to follow the steps, and you’ll see that things begin to change.
As soon as you use the techniques, she changes the way that she responds to you. She changes the way that she looks at you. She changes the way that she talks to you, and her guard starts to come down and you can then guide her back into a relationship with you.
So, if you are serious about getting her back, I don’t recommend that you waste any more time ignoring her or trying to convince her to give you another chance.
I also don’t recommend that you waste weeks and maybe months trying to figure this stuff out on your own when you learn it all in 10 hours of video training.
I offer a 30-day money back guarantee, and you’re welcome to try my program.
All you’ve got to do is go through the training, start using the techniques, and you will see that she changes the way that she feels about you, responds to you, talks to you, and behaves around you.
Her guard will start to come down, and you can then guide her back into a relationship with you.
You Getting Her Back is What Matters the Most
I hope this post has been helpful for you, and I also hope that you take the next step and watch my program, so I can help you get her back as soon as possible.
By using the Get Your Ex Back Super System method, you’re going to save time.
Rather than wasting weeks or months trying to figure it out by trial and error, and potentially turning her off even more, you’ll be ready to contact her in an attractive way after watching the 10 hours of video.
The techniques and methods in my program changes how she feels and she then drops her guard and opens back up to being in a relationship with you.
When you do get back with her, the relationship is going to be better than, before because it’s going to be a new dynamic without the old mistakes.
You’re going to be making her feel respect attraction and love for you in ways that she hasn’t experienced before. It doesn’t matter how good your relationship was in the past, that has to be put aside for now.
What you need to do, if you want to get her back, is create a new relationship dynamic that feels attractive and interesting and exciting and enjoyable to her, and you can do that.
I’m ready to guide you through the process of doing it. I’m ready to give you all the examples of what to say and do to make it happen. It’s now up to you to take the next step and watch my program.
Okay, so to close up here, I just want to say that, I hope this post has been helpful for you and I really do look forward to helping you get your ex back.
A major mistake to avoid when you’re trying to get your ex-girlfriend, fiancé, or wife back is to turn into an emotional wussy.
The more of an emotional wuss that a guy becomes, the more it annoys the woman because women are not attracted to the emotional weakness of men.
Women are always attracted to the emotional strength of men. For example: Confidence, self-belief, high self-esteem, self-assurance, determination to succeed, etc.
So, if a guy is displaying emotional, wussy behavior where he’s being insecure, emotionally sensitive, appears to be lost without her and is also afraid to joke around because he’s worried that it might upset her, that is going to turn her off.
When going through a breakup, what a woman positively responds to is when a man is confident in himself and he doesn’t stop being his real self. He doesn’t lose confidence in his ability to make her feel attracted.
He also doesn’t feel like it’s no longer his place to joke around with her, and flirt with her, and make her feel attracted. It is his place because he is a confident, loving man and he can make her feel attracted, and he can also make other women feel attracted.
He might not want other women because he wants her, but if he wanted to have other women, he could because he’s a confident, loving man who knows how to attract women.
Using Humor Rather Than Being an Emotional Wuss
One of the best ways to show your ex that you’re not emotionally weak, is to have the balls to joke around in moments where you would usually just be polite, nice and essentially suck up to her.
For example: A guy is talking to his woman and she says, “I don’t have feelings for you anymore.” He can joke around with her at that point, and get her laughing and smiling, which is going to make her feel some attraction and respect for him.
So in response to her saying, “I don’t know if I have feelings for you anymore.” He can then smile and say in a joking manner, “Yeah, me too. I hate you now. You’re my bitchy ex-girlfriend who broke my heart. Oh, I’m going to cry now.”
She’s most-likely going to laugh and smile in that moment.
Important: Saying that to her isn’t the magic secret to getting an ex back; it’s just something in that moment that’s at least going to make her smile and maybe even make her laugh. It’s also going to make her feel respect for the fact that the guy isn’t losing confidence regardless of what she says.
He maintain his confidence in his ability to make her feel attracted.
He knows that by getting her laughing and smiling like that, in a moment where she’s not really feeling sure about her feelings, is going to make her have some feelings for him.
She’s going to feel good around him, she’s going to be laughing and smiling, which is going to mean that she has some feelings for him.
He knows that he can create that.
When you know that you can create attraction inside of a woman, you’ve got nothing to worry about.
Whatever she says to you, you can use it as an opportunity to make her feel respect and attraction for you.
If you are sincere about wanting to get your ex back, you need to use every interaction, whether that’s via text, on a phone call, or in person as an opportunity to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
When you approach it in that way, she will drop her guard, begin to have feelings for you again, and become open to meeting up and experiencing the new and improved version of you in person.
When you meet up and make her feel a lot of respect and attraction, she’ll most likely be open to hooking up again and giving the relationship another chance.
Getting an ex back is easier when you focus on making her feel attracted to you, rather than wasting months ignoring her or wasting loads of energy on endless phone calls where you’re trying to convince her to give you another chance.
In most cases, a woman is only going to give a guy another chance if he has the ability to make her have feelings for him again.
You can make her have feelings for you in many different ways. One of those ways is getting her laughing and smiling and another way is to show her that you’ve moved beyond the level that you were at when she broke up with you.
For example: If a guy got broken up with because he didn’t have much purpose in life, he didn’t have much ambition. He was just sitting around, or working in a crappy job, or wanting to spend most of his time with her and just clinging on to her.
What’s going to make her have some feelings for him again (it’s not going to be the ultimate solution to getting her back, but it’s going to make her have some feelings for him again), is to see that he now has big goals in life and he’s starting to make some progress towards that.
That is what really counts.
It’s about making her have some feelings for you again, allowing her to smile and laugh when she’s interacting with you, allowing her to look at you in a new, positive light and see that you have begun to move beyond the level that you were at when she broke up with you.
You don’t have to become perfect though, you don’t have to fix everything and become a super, amazing man to get an ex back.
It’s actually a lot simpler than that.
Another example of getting her smiling, and maybe even laughing, is where she asks, “Is it still cool to contact you? Do you want to stay friends?” and then the guy can respond to that in a way that makes her laugh.
So with the example of her asking, “Is it still cool to contact you?” A guy can then say, “No way. Don’t ever contact me again, I never want to hear from you. Why would I want to hear from you? If you call me, I’m hanging up right away. I’m just, like, end phone call, every time.”
At that moment, she’s going to be able to smile, she’s going to be able to feel some respect for him that he is confident and he’s in control in that situation.
Compare that to a guy who responds to her question of, “Is it still cool to contact you?” com “Of course, contact me any time,” or even worse where he says, “No, don’t contact me again. I won’t be able to handle that. If you don’t want to be with me, then don’t contact me. I can’t deal with that, it’s going to be too painful,” and then she loses respect for him for being an emotional wuss.
With the other example of her asking, “Do you still want to be friends?” a guy can also use that as an opportunity to get her smiling and maybe even laughing.
She asks, “Do you still want to be friends?” A guy can say, “Yeah, we’ll be best friends. We’ll go shopping on Sundays, we’ll gossip on Mondays, and we’ll text like crazy during the week about all the TV shows that we’re watching. We’ll be best friends forever.”
In that moment, she’s going to be able to smile and she might even laugh. More importantly, she is going to be able to feel some respect for him and isn’t going to be looking down on him for being an emotional wuss like or lacking the confidence and balls to joke around with her.
On the other hand, if a woman asks that question, “Do you still want to be friends?” Her boyfriend, fiancé, or husband says, “No, no, no, I don’t want to be friends. If you don’t want to be with me, then I don’t want to be interacting with you. It’d be too painful, etc.”
That’s not going to make her feel respect and attraction for him in that moment.
She’s going to feel as though he’s not emotionally strong, he can’t even deal with what’s going on and it’s going to make her lose even more respect and attraction for him.
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If you want to reunite with your ex girlfriend, be sure to apply these tips to ensure that your attempt is successful and results in you and her getting back into a committed, loving relationship that lasts.
1. Level up your ability to attract her emotionally
Emotional attraction is very important to women when it comes to relationships.
So, if a woman is with a man who she can’t truly feel attracted to emotionally (e.g. she’s more emotionally independent, whereas he tends to be clingy and needy, she’s focused on making progress on her goals as soon as possible, whereas he is still happy to drifting through life, she believes in herself and her value to him, while he feels insecure about his value to her, she feels comfortable around confident people, whereas he feels intimidated), then relationship just won’t feel right to her.
Some women put up with that, but if a woman is attractive and knows she doesn’t have to settle for it, she will usually want to go through with a break up and try to find a more emotionally attractive man.
This is why, if you want to successfully reunite with your ex, you need to level up your ability to make her feel emotionally attracted, so she can sense that things would really be better with you now.
Here are some examples of what a woman might want to see from her ex boyfriend when she interacts with him again:
- He treats her well and is loving and attentive, but he now also makes her feel motivated to be good to him and impress him. She senses that and realizes that if she doesn’t treat him well and impress him, he might lose interest in her. It’s no longer a one-sided, ‘he wants her, but she doesn’t want him’ kind of relationship. There is mutual attraction and desire to impress each other now.
- He remains calm, confident and in control regardless of what she says or does to test him (e.g. not giving straight answers, acting like she doesn’t care, insulting him, putting him down) or how emotional she gets. This shows her that he is a much stronger man now, but is still loving and respectful. He’s manned up.
- He makes her feel turned on and aroused by way of his flirting and manly behavior, rather than making her feel neutral, non-sexual feelings by acting like a nice friend, or like an unworthy ex who is insecure around her now.
- He makes her feel special and loved, but he doesn’t need to spend every minute with her to feel secure. Instead, he now has his own goals, interests and ambitions outside of the relationship, which naturally prevent him from being clingy, needy, controlling or jealous.
When a man is able to make changes like those, his ex girlfriend will automatically begin to feel more emotionally attracted to him and as a result, it will be so much easier to reunite and get back together, because she will want it too.
2. Reach out to her and set up a meet up while you still can
She’s not going to wait around, or be single and available forever.
So, if you’re not in contact with her right now, go ahead reach out to her via text or social media to reopen the lines of communication.
Once you’ve done that, it’s important that you get her on a call (phone call or video call), so you can properly reactivate some of her feelings for you and make her want to see you in person.
Every day, all across the world, millions guys successfully reunite with an ex girlfriend right away, simply by just having the courage to hit call on their phone and talk to her, rather than hiding behind texts or messages for weeks or months.
Hiding behind texts results in so many guys losing out on getting an ex girlfriend back, because she gets bored with the endless and pointless texting (or messaging) back and forth, or she decides to play hard to get to hopefully encourage him to call, or get to the point where he arranges a meet up.
She then either stops responding to him, or she places him in the friend zone and moves on with another guy instead.
That’s why you need to call her and use some playfully challenging humor to make her feel attracted and think, “He sounds so different now. Maybe it would be fun to see him in person.”
For example: Imagine you’re on a call with her and she says, “I just can’t decide if it’s a good idea to see each other again.”
You then laugh and say, “You always had a problem with decisions, so let’s not decide. Let’s just catch up,” which is actually a decision of course, because you’re deciding for the both of you that you should catch up.
Alternatively, you could laugh and say, “Well, if you can’t decide, I’ll decide for us. We’ll catch up and have a coffee this Wednesday at 7pm. Meet you at Cafe Modern at 7pm on Wednesday.”
Alternatively, you can laugh and say, “It’s not a good idea. It’s a great idea. We’ll catch up, have a coffee, have a laugh and say goodbye. There’s no problem with that, so it’s not a big decision to make. See you at 7pm on Wednesday at Cafe Modern?”
Alternatively, you can laugh and say, “You’re so funny. Always struggling to make decisions. Let’s just have a coffee. Nada demais. See you at Cafe Modern at 7pm on Wednesday for an innocent catch up between exes. You’re paying for the coffee of course” and then pause, let her feel shocked or ask, “Huh?” and then say, “Just kidding. The coffee is on me. Let’s catch up, have a laugh and a chat. No strings attached.”
If you have the courage to playfully mess with her, it will create sparks of attraction inside of her because women are attracted to confident, ballsiness and daring from men, as long as you are still being a good, respectful man.
As a result of feeling attracted, she will naturally want to meet up with you to experience more of this new, exciting and interesting side of you.
3. Surprise her with new, exciting feelings of attraction at the meet up
At the meet up, make sure that you continue to reawaken her feelings by saying and doing the types of things that will make her look at you in a more positive light.
- Rather than being nervous and unsure of yourself around her, surprise her with your new, more confident and relaxed attitude.
- Rather than being too nice, polite and on your best behavior, shock her (in a good way) by flirting with her, using some playfully challenging humor and allowing the sexual sparks to fly between you and her again.
- Rather than pretending that you only see her as a neutral friend now, make it clear to her via the way you talk and interact with her that you still find her sexy and desirable.
- Rather than let her control the dynamic of the conversation or interaction, stand up to her in a loving, but assertive way so she can you’ve manned up and are now able to handle her confident, independent personality.
The more you do that, the more she will realize that you aren’t the same guy she broke up with.
As a result, her walls will come down and she will begin to imagine what reuniting with you (sexually and romantically) would feel like.
4. Let her be the one who is hinting at or suggesting that you and her get back together
Many guys make the mistake of meeting up with an ex girlfriend and then pushing and trying hard to get her to agree to having a relationship again.
Yet, that approach almost always backfires because a woman doesn’t want to feel trapped, or like she’s being forced into something she’s not sure about.
This is why it’s important that you focus on making her feel very attracted to you at the meet up (i.e. by being challenging, flirting with her, remaining confident no matter what she says or does to make you doubt yourself), so she’s the one who starts hinting at getting back together again.
For example: She might say, “Seeing you again has made me wonder if we made a mistake by breaking up. O que você acha? Do you think there’s a chance we can work things out after all?”
Alternatively, rather than saying something, she might give you signs that she’s open to hooking up with you sexually (e.g. touching you more often than she needs to, playing with her throat or hair while talking to you), because she knows that sex speeds up the reconciliation process.
You can then just lead the way and guide her to a hug, kissing, sex and then back into a relationship.
5. Allow her to have another chance with you
Once you’ve re-attracted her and made her want to be back with you, mentally put yourself in the position where it is you who is deciding whether or not she gets a chance with you.
Not only is that a better dynamic for you, but it’s also what a woman really wants anyway.
Women want a guy who makes them feel lucky to be with him, rather than reluctantly accepting a guy that they’re not really that into.
When you make that mental shift to see yourself as being in the position of power, she will begin to sense it based on your body language, what you’re saying, how you’re behaving and how you’re reacting to her.
As a result, she will begin to feel as though she’s the one who has to impress you to ensure that you and her get back together.
This makes her begin to turn on her charm to try to fully win you over.
You then allow her to have another chance with you.
5 Mistakes to Avoid When Attempting to Reunite With an Ex Girlfriend
1. Coming on too strong about wanting a relationship when she doesn’t feel the same way
Women rarely respond well when a man is desperate for a relationship.
It’s just not attractive.
So, if you come on too strong about wanting a relationship, your ex girlfriend is likely going to feel uncomfortable, pressured and as though she is being forced into something that she’s not ready for, or doesn’t want anymore.
She might then begin to close herself off from you, cut off contact or ask that you and her don’t speak to each other for a while (i.e. she will ask for space, so she can start dating other men and move on).
This is why, if you want to successfully reunite with your ex girlfriend, focus on building up her sexual and romantic feelings for you during interactions, rather than trying to secure a relationship when she doesn’t even feel like being in one with you.
After you’ve had sex with her again, you and her will naturally begin to get back together if you’ve changed and she likes the new you.
Prior to that, don’t try to secure a relationship because she will almost certainly push you away, play hard to get or ask for space.
2. Not adjusting your approach to make her feel a new kind of attraction for you
If a guy tries to get his ex girlfriend back by using the same approach that he used before (e.g. being really nice and sweet to her, treating her like a friend, letting her call all the shots), she usually won’t be interested and will simply reject him.
This is why, to make your ex want you back, you need to start creating new feelings of sexual and romantic attraction inside of her (i.e. by being more of a challenge, being more manly in how you talk to her, behave around her and react to her).
When you make her feel attracted in new and exciting ways, she then feels compelled to give you another chance, because it’s interesting, appealing and arousing for her.
3. Being tense and anxious around her, rather than confident and lighthearted
Women are naturally attracted to confident, emotionally strong men.
So, if you’re being too tense and anxious during interactions with your ex, she will naturally feel turned off (i.e. her instincts tell her that a guy that can’t relax and be confident is emotionally weak or unstable).
As a result, she will instinctively decide that you’re not the right guy for her and push you away.
4. Asking her if she wants to get back into a relationship with you
It seems like an innocent, practical question to ask, “So, do you want to get back together?” ou, “Do you think there’s a chance we could work things out?” but when you ask an ex woman something like that, she will usually give you an answer that is counter-productive (e.g. she’s not sure, she needs space to think about it).
Alternatively, she will reject your offer to avoid seeming too easy.
This is why, the best approach is for you to just interact with her and focus on sparking her sexual and romantic feelings for you.
When you make her feel attracted, respectful and exited around you, then reuniting with her will naturally begin to happen because she will want it too.
5. Waiting too long to initiate the reconciliation
The longer you wait to begin the ex back process, the more chances you’re giving her to get over you and find a new man to fall in love with.
If you don’t want that to happen, you have to make sure that you don’t spend the next few weeks, or even months, ignoring her and hoping that she can’t replace you.
The best approach is to just call her and actively make her have feelings for you again.
Then, hook up with her sexually and guide her back into a relationship.
Here are 7 possible outcomes of you giving her space and waiting for her to come back.
1. She feels sad, so she decides to make herself feel better by dating new men
Almost all women have men in their life who secretly like her and are just waiting for a chance to date her.
For example: A coworker, a neighbor, a friend of a friend, or an ex who she still feels something for.
It’s also very easy for women to line up a bunch of dates via dating apps and sites (e.g. Tinder, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel. Hinge, Bumble).
Additionally, if she’s attractive and she goes to bars or clubs with her friends (they will usually drag her out for a girl’s night out to make her feel better), the chances of her getting hit on by guys there are pretty high.
If she wants to (or gets drunk and goes with the flow), she can easily hook up with a guy she meets there and even end up dating and then getting into a relationship with him.
So, if you give her too much space and she feels hurt because of it, don’t assume she will come running back to you to get you back.
Instead, she might decide to open herself up to dating a new guy to give herself a confidence boost and make herself feel better that way instead.
Then, by the time you do contact her (possibly after 30 or even 60 days), she will likely already be with a new man, or have experienced fun, exciting sex and want more of it.
Then, convincing her to leave her new relationship, or give up on an enjoyable single life to give you another chance becomes a lot more difficult for you.
This is why, if you do give your ex space, 3 to 7 days is long enough to allow for things to calm down and for her to start missing you.
3 to 7 days proves the prove that you’re not being needy or desperate, while also showing her that you haven’t just given up and don’t care enough to attempt to get her back.
So, when you wait too long, it can often motivate a woman to want to forget about you and move on, rather than risk contacting you to find out that you’re not interested.
The next reason why she won’t necessarily come back just because you gave her space is…
2. She doesn’t care because she’s not planning on getting back with you
When a woman breaks up with a man, it will usually be a move that she works up to making over the course of weeks or months.
First, she will usually give her man chances to improve himself or change the dynamic of the relationship, but if he doesn’t, she will begin to switch off her feelings for him.
Additionally, she will usually prepare herself mentally to move on and make a fresh start without him in it (i.e. tell some of her girlfriends and get them ready to want to go out and party with her, or start flirting and opening up to guys who are interested in her, so she has a new guy to date pretty much right away).
Then, she will get herself to the point where she doesn’t care if she loses him.
At that point, she will dump him.
Then, if he doesn’t contact her, she simply won’t care much at all and will get on with enjoying life without him.
So, when a woman doesn’t hear from a man she has dumped, rather than feeling upset about it and running back to him, she just doesn’t care.
It’s actually not something she spends a lot of time thinking or worrying about, because she’s usually busy getting on with her life.
This is why, you stand a much better chance of getting your ex back by giving her a little bit of space (i.e. up to a week) and then interact with her again to re-attract her and get her back.
3. She feels happier without you, which makes her glad that you’re not contacting her
In most cases, the days, weeks and even months leading up to a break up are filled with more bad days than good ones.
The couple will usually have arguments and feel like they are drifting apart, or as though only one of them wants to hold onto the relationship.
During this time, a woman might find herself often crying and wondering why she’s even bothering sticking around with a guy who makes her feel so miserable.
Initially, she might feel a bit afraid to break up with him because she worries that she’ll miss him and feel unhappy without him in her life.
Yet, if she doesn’t feel happy with him, she will force herself to go through with the break up.
Then, rather than feeling lost and sad without him, she actually feels happy and free.
It feels like a weight has been lifted off of her shoulders and she can now get on with enjoying life, rather than being stuck in a relationship that was making her unhappy.
4. She feels rejected that you’re not contacting her, worries about losing you and then contacts you
Sometimes giving a woman space and not contacting her can work.
She can worry that she’s losing you and contact you to open communication back up between you.
Of course, there’s no guarantee you will get her back if she contacts you under those circumstances (i.e. if she senses that you haven’t changed, she can and usually will lose interest. Alternatively, she may just contact you to check that you still want her back, so she can feel good about herself as she moves on without you).
5. She doesn’t worry because she has plenty of experience with break ups and knows that the pain will pass
If a woman has been through a few break ups in her life, she will know that no matter how sad, lonely and dejected she might be feeling because an ex isn’t contacting her, those feelings will eventually fade away.
So, rather than letting his silence bother her, a woman will usually focus on doing the things that will help her get over him (e.g. spend more time going out with her single friends and flirting with guys, focus on her work or hobbies, go on dates, have sex with someone new).
6. She feels disappointed that you don’t care enough to contact her and fix things
Regardless of how convinced a woman is that she wants to be broken up, it doesn’t mean she is 100% against giving her ex another chance if he contacts her and re-attracts her.
This is one of the reasons why so many couples break up and get back together more than once.
Women pretty much always give a guy another chance, if he is able to re-attract her.
Important: Re-attracting her is different to trying to convince her to give you another chance.
Re-attracting her is about interacting with her and letting her experience the changes in you, rather than telling her that you’ve changed or will change if she gives you another chance.
So, if you give your ex too much space and don’t contact her for weeks or months, you can end up killing any hope she has off giving you another chance.
As a result, she may think something like, “Well, maybe he never loved me at all! If he did, he’d be calling me instead of ignoring me. I guess I was a fool to believe that he really loved me.”
A woman will usually then begin dating and hooking up with another guy to make herself feel better.
7. She falls in love with a new guy and stops caring about potentially getting back with you
When a woman has lost touch with her feelings for a guy enough to dump him and leave him, she will rarely wait around for him to come back to her.
Instead, she will focus on moving on as quickly as possible, even if that means dating guys who aren’t her ideal match, until she finds the right one.
Then, by the time her ex does contact her again, she might be in love with someone else and not interested in trying to fix a broken relationship.
If he’d contacted her earlier, it would have been easier for him to get her to meet up.
Yet, now he’s made it unnecessarily difficult for himself by having to attract her on a call and persuade her to meet up, despite being with a new guy.
This is why, if you want your ex back, you need to be the guy who makes her feel respect, attraction and love again so she wants to be with you, rather than with anyone else.
If you let another guy get a hold of her heart, you’re going to have to battle to convince her that you’re her ideal match and he isn’t.
4 Mistakes Men Often Make When Giving a Woman Space After a Break Up
1. Assuming that the more space he gives her, the more she will want him back
A little bit space (i.e. 3 to 7 days) is best when getting an ex woman back.
The reason why is because it gives her some time to cool off and begin missing you, while also proving that you’re not needy and desperate, but do still care about her.
Giving her more than a week can result in her believing that you don’t care anymore, so she is free to move on without you.
2. Assuming that giving space works in all break up situations
Giving a lot of space works in some, but not most break up situations.
For example: If a woman is still very much in love with her guy, she may go back to him if he ignores her for weeks because she doesn’t want to risk losing him.
Of course, she might also feel rejected and decide to move on without him.
Another example of when giving space works, is if a woman struggles to find a replacement man.
She may then go back to her ex because she wants to stop feeling like a reject, or stop feeling lonely and left behind.
However, in cases like that, she will usually be looking for another guy in the background and when she finds one she will dump her ex again and move on.
On the other hand, in cases where a woman has lost touch with her feelings for a guy enough to dump him, giving her space is actually something she is grateful for, because she can move on in peace.
So, if your ex stopped loving you, feeling attracted to you and respecting you near the end of the relationship, don’t assume that she will want that back.
A woman wants to feel in love and be in a relationship with a man that she respects and feels attracted to.
If you want her back, contact her, interact with her and let her experience those kind of feelings for you.
3. Assuming that she will want to come back to him, even though she’s not attracted or in love with him anymore
Think about it…
It doesn’t make sense to assume that a woman who no longer has feelings for a guy, is suddenly going to change her mind the longer he ignores her, right?
She doesn’t want him, so why would she want him if he lets her have space?
It will only work if she can’t find a suitable replacement man, or if she really does want him and only dumped him due to a silly argument or problem they experienced.
If your ex dumped you due to no longer having enough feelings to want to be with you, then she’s almost certainly not going to run back to that if you give her space.
This is why, just giving a woman space is not the answer to getting her back.
What is the answer? Attraction.
The more attraction you can make her feel when you interact with her, the more she will realize that her feelings for you aren’t dead and that getting back with you would actually be exciting, interesting and enjoyable for her now.
4. Underestimating her ability to attract and date new men and move on without him
Most women are attractive enough to easily find a new man to start dating, sleeping with or having a relationship with.
So, when a woman’s ex ignores her after the break up, she will won’t struggle to be able to meet new men.
To make herself feel better, she may decide to hook up with one of them, rather than chasing after an ex that she assumes is no longer interested in her (i.e. because he’s not contacting her).
The No Contact Rule doesn’t work for most ex back cases where a guy has been dumped by a woman who no longer feels enough attraction or love to be with him.
However, there is still always a chance to contact your ex, make her feel attracted and get something going again.
All hope is not lost.
You can still get her back.
So, here are 5 tips for you, if you’re serious about getting her back after months of using the No Contact Rule on her:
1. Understand that she will might experience some good feelings to hear from you after this long
After all, you are a man that she used to really like or love and there is a chance that she may have been missing you for a while.
Even though she dumped you, she may not have been 100% over you when the relationship ended.
In a case like that, it can cause a woman to wonder why he isn’t contacting her anymore (e.g. Has he met a new girl? Does he not care about her all of a sudden? Is it him who is rejecting her now?).
Despite that, most women don’t reach out to an ex who is using No Contact and instead, decide to begin moving on by meeting new men (e.g. going to bars and clubs, joining an online dating site or using an app like Tinder, joining a meet up group in her area, opening up to dating one or more of her male friends who have had a crush on her).
In most cases, the woman will move on and forget about her ex.
Yet, if she is unable to properly move on (e.g. because she has only been meeting low quality guys, no one is asking her out on a date, she didn’t feel enough of a spark with her male friends), she may find herself thinking about her ex more and more.
Rather than remembering all the negative things about him that used to turn her off (e.g. she felt more like his friend than his lover, he wasn’t enough of a challenge to her, so she never felt motivated to treat him well and be a good woman to him, he was too insecure and ended up being clingy and needy), she instead starts thinking about him in a more positive way.
Then, if he contacts her out of the blue after ignoring her for months, there is a chance she will be happy to hear from him and be willing to reply.
Of course, if she interacts with him and notices that he hasn’t changed and is still making the same attraction mistakes as before (e.g. still seems a bit insecure, still lacks the manliness she craves, still gives her too much power), she will lose interest and become more determine to meet new men to move on without him.
So, if you do contact your ex after months of No Contact, make sure that you’re ready to re-attract her in new and interesting ways, rather than just reaching out and talking to her like a friend, or letting her sense that you still have some or all of the same kind of issues that turned her off about you.
2. Understand that she will probably suspect that you want her back and that isn’t a problem
If you contact her, she will have to wonder why.
If she suspects that you’re contacting her due to wanting her back, it’s not a problem.
Yet, just don’t go right into letting her sense that you want her back, unless she shows that to you.
If she is just talking like a friend, then add in flirting and arrange a catch up in person as soon as possible, without giving her the impression that it’s about starting the relationship again and nothing else.
Let her sense that it’s a casual catch up.
3. Understand that she might have gotten over you by this point and will need to experience a new spark to feel drawn to you again
A romantic, sexual spark is what changes a man and a woman from just being friends, to being lovers, boyfriend-girlfriend or husband-wife.
It’s the fundamental thing that makes a woman want more than just a friendship, or nothing at all.
Your ex would have felt a spark with you in the past, which lead to her wanting to have a sexual relationship with you.
Yet, somewhere along the line, the spark died and she began to lose interest.
If you want to get her back now, after months of No Contact, the best approach to use it to create a new kind of spark with her, so she becomes interested and curious.
If you tried to rekindle the relationship by using the approach you used with her in the past, her guard will go up and she may feel as though you’re trying to get her to want what she used to like about you when things were good.
For example: If a guy initially attracted his girlfriend by talking about certain topics that she was interested in, or texting her late at night and having deep and meaningful conversations, he might try that approach again.
Yet, that’s old news to her.
It’s an approach that she previously fell for, which resulted in a relationship that she ended up disliking so much she ended it.
So, to avoid her putting her guard up, you need to be willing to create a new kind of spark with her, which will then cause her to see you in a new light.
For example: Some of the ways you can do that are by…
- Taking control in an emotionally masculine manner and leading the way during interactions with her, rather than letting her call the shots or cause you to behave in a timid way, due to her confident, independent personality.
- Avoiding being too serious around her and instead using humor to make her laugh, smile and feel happy to be around you again.
- Being confident and believing in your value to her, rather than feeling unworthy of her now due to being dumped.
- Being a good guy to her, but also flirting with her and building up sexual tension between you and her, so that she wants to release the exciting tension with hugging, kissing and sex.
- Remaining calm, confident and easy-going rather than getting upset, regardless of what she says or does to test you.
When you use a new approach to her, she will feel a new spark with you.
Then, she will realize that if she doesn’t give you a chance, she may end up missing you and regretting it.
As a result, she opens up to giving you another chance, or at least meeting up with you in person to see what happens.
4. A confident voice text with a bit of humor works better than just a standard text
The best approach is a phone call, or video call.
However, if you can’t do that or don’t feel confident enough to do so, then sending her a confident voice text and adding in some humor, or light flirting will spark her attraction and curiosity and make her want to respond to you.
You can then banter back and forth a few times after that via voice text, but eventually, have the courage to get on a phone call with her to give yourself the best chance to re-attract her and get her to meet up with you in person.
Whatever you do though, make sure that you don’t just stick to typed texts.
Using voice texts (at the very least), or talking to your ex on a call will get you much quicker results that just typing up texts.
On a phone call, she can sense whether or not you’ve changed based on the tonality of your voice and how you are now talking to her, responding to her and reacting to what she says.
As a result, when you suggest a meet up, she is more likely to accept and agree because she will want to experience the new, confident version of you face to face.
She is also much less likely to reject you on a phone call vs. a text.
Based on what I’ve seen from thousands of text examples Modern Man customers and website visitors have sent me, as well as from guys I’ve coached in the past, women are at least 10x more likely to reject a request for a meet up when it’s sent via text vs. asked for on a phone call.
Voice texts increase the chances of getting a yes, but they aren’t as effective as a live phone call or video call.
So, make sure not to try and achieve everything with your ex via typed texts.
At the very least, use voice texts to then transition to a phone call (i.e. because she’s heard your voice, sensed that you’re not being needy, sensed your confidence and becomes curious to talk to you on a call).
5. Make sure that your social profile shows that you’ve been having fun around other people
When you contact her, she will almost certainly go to your social profiles first to see what you’ve been up to.
If she sees that your profile hasn’t been updated in months, or you made posts that suggest you are alone, or doing things on your own, then it can cause her to think something like, “Why is he contacting me? Is he lonely and desperate without me/ It looks like he’s been sitting around all this time and doing nothing. Maybe he’s just contacting me because he can’t find another woman to be with.”
She then doesn’t feel motivated to talk to you or see you.
So, before reaching out to your ex, make sure that your social media profiles are updated with photos of you having fun with other people.
Important: It must be with other people and not of you alone (regardless or how good you think you look in a particular photo), of your pet, the sunset on the beach or the great meal you had at your favorite restaurant…alone.
Women aren’t attracted to loneliness or emotional weakness (i.e. a guy who is unable to be around other people after being dumped because he’s suffering emotionally).
Women are attracted to emotional strength, which you can display to her by having fun with other people and posting it on social media.
Even just seeing a few photos of you enjoying your life without her, is enough for most women to drop their guard and open up to interacting with you some more to see where things go.
I’ve heard back from thousands of men who’ve experienced this, even with the most stubborn, uninterested ex girlfriend or wife.
You have to do what works.
On that note, here are some examples of what doesn’t work…
5 Mistakes Men Often Make When Trying to Get an Ex Woman Back After Months of No Contact
1. Sending a vague text, not getting a response and then giving up
For example: A guy might text something like, “Hey, there’s a new space travel movie coming out. Just thought I’d let you know because I remembered you liked movies like that,” or just a simple, “Hey.”
She might not know what his intentions are, a woman will usually ignore a text like that and wait for more.
If he doesn’t send anything else, she will leave it and continue moving on without him.
So, if you do text your ex, make sure you use some humor to spark her feelings of curiosity about you, or at least have the courage to text her again the next day if she doesn’t reply, or send her a voice message with some humor or flirting.
Essentially, don’t give up so easily and don’t hide behind typed texts, hoping that she will do all the work to get you back.
If she hasn’t heard from you in months, she might be a bit hesitant to start communicating with you (e.g. she might worry that you’re just reaching out to text her, get her replying and then let her know that you’ve met another girl and are happy).
There are all sorts of reasons why a guy will text his ex girlfriend, which can make her feel unsure and hesitant about reply.
So be strong, contact her again if necessary and move things forward to a phone call and meet up.
2. Waiting additional weeks or months without contacting her and she then completely moves on
The longer a woman goes without hearing from her ex, the more time she has to get over him.
Additionally, the more likely it is that she will meet a man who makes her feel attracted.
So, stop waiting for ‘the right moment’ to contact her and get her on a call with you right away.
The sooner you begin re-sparking her feelings again, the sooner she will be back in your arms and loving it.
3. Not preparing himself to create a new spark with her
A mistake that many guys make is to sit around for weeks or months of No Contact, just thinking about how much they miss their ex and how they want her back.
Yet, what they should be doing is preparing themselves to attract her in new and interesting ways, so she actually has a reason to give him another chance (i.e. she has new feelings for him and worries that she will regret not giving him another chance).
As a result, a guy will wait months to contact his ex girlfriend and she will sense that he’s still trying to offer her the same kind of attraction experience that she lost interest in (e.g. he’s still too nice, too insecure, gives her too much power, doesn’t know how to be a challenge, doesn’t understand how to flirt with her and create sexual tension).
She then doesn’t feel motivated to give him another chance, so she rejects him or cuts off contact.
4. Showing interest in a relationship before she does
If you want to make your ex feel interested in getting back together again, focus on building up her sexual and romantic feelings for you during interactions (e.g. by using playful humor, being flirtatious, being more confident than you were before, being a bit of a challenge, making her feel girly in comparison to your more manly approach), rather than pushing for a relationship with her right away.
Then, the more attracted and happy she feels when she’s with you, the more her defenses will begin to come down.
As a result, she will naturally become open to the possibility of being with you again in a sexual and romantic way, because she feels drawn to you.
However, if you push for a relationship before you’ve reactivated her feelings of attraction, she’s just going to keep saying, “No. I’m not interested” because it’s you’re asking for a one-sided relationship.
The feelings have to be mutual, or at least close to mutual for her to want to give you another chance.
If it’s just about you wanting her back because you love her, miss her and are promising to do better, then she’s not going to be interested.
You have to focus on making her have feelings for you.
When you do that, she will then open up to more, but not before.
5. Acting like he only sees her as a friend, which then results in her feeling as though there’s no spark between them
A friendship is different to a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
The main difference is the sexual spark.
So, don’t make the mistake of just talking to her like a friend and hoping that she’ll want you back.
By all means be friendly, but make sure that you use flirting and other natural attraction methods to make her feel sexually attracted to you as well.
That way, she knows what your intentions are without you having to say it and she also feels a spark with you, which then creates sexual tension that she wants to release with hugging, kissing and sex.
When you approach it that way, she becomes open and is excited to explore her new feelings for you.
However, if you just act like a friend, her guard will go up, she will be suspicious of your intentions and will almost certainly play mind games with you (e.g. acting like she’s not interested when she is) to avoid herself being rejected.
Here are 5 things you can do:
1. Understand what parts of the attraction experience were missing in her relationship with you
After getting dumped, many guys are left wondering, “Why did she end it? I thought what we had was great, but somehow, it just wasn’t enough for her. What was missing?”
It can be very confusing and frustrating, especially if you really did like her, love her and want things to work out.
So, if you’re not sure where to start to get her back, here are some questions that will help you better understand what was missing in the relationship:
- Did she like that you were an emotionally strong, confident and independent man, or did she complain about you being clingy, needy, insecure, not manly enough too emotionally sensitive?
- Did she feel motivated to treat you well and be a good, loving woman to you to avoid losing you, or did she treat you badly because she knew that you would put up with it just to be with her?
Did she like that you took the lead in the relationship and allowed her to relax into thinking, feeling and behaving like a feminine woman around you, or did she feel that she had to be the strong one, make important decisions for the both of you and essentially take care of you?
- Did she feel sexy and desirable with you, or did she end up feeling more like your non-sexual friend or housemate?
- Did she feel proud to be standing next to at parties, social events or around friends and family, or did she feel embarrassed due to you feeling nervous, insecure or intimidated by confident people?
- Did she feel she lucky to be with you, or did you give her the impression that you felt lucky to be with her?
When you understand what really turned your ex off about you, you can then take action to improve those things about yourself right now.
That way, the next time you interact with her, you will be able to give her the attraction experience she really wants from a man.
She will then realize that you how she feels around you now is different, interesting and appealing, so if she doesn’t give you another chance, she may end up regretting it if she can’t find a guy who makes her feel that way.
2. Accept that you will need to adjust your approach to her if you want her back
If you keep using the same approach with your ex that you’ve been using up to this point (e.g. being really nice, letting her call all the shots, being too easy, feeling intimidated by her, trying to get on her good side by sucking up to her), she’s almost certainly going to continue moving on without you.
Here’s the thing…
To make your ex really want you this time around, you need to start creating new feelings of sexual and romantic attraction inside of her.
That requires you to adjust your approach with her, rather than only doing things that you have been doing and not being willing to step outside of your comfort zone.
What are some examples?
- Being more ballsy and using humor when you’re around her, rather than always being nice and polite. That doesn’t mean ‘be disrespectful’ or ‘be an asshole.’ Instead, it’s about manning up and letting her experience your confidence, masculinity and balls, while also making her laugh at the humor you’re using. It’s an approach that pretty much every woman on the planet instantly feels attracted to. Yes, even your ex. Don’t assume she doesn’t. If she met a guy who had more balls than you in terms of how he interacted with her and he made her laugh, don’t assume she wouldn’t feel attracted. What makes women feel attracted to men is different to what makes men feel attracted to women (i.e. we don’t need women to be ballsy. Most men like nice, friendly women).
- Taking control and being the man during interactions with her, rather than giving her too much power.
- Treating her like a hot, sexy woman, rather than as though she is angelic, pure or uninterested in sex or feeling turned on. She wants to feel turned on and if you don’t make her feel that way, another guy will and she will then focus on him.
- Being more emotionally independent and enjoying your life without her, rather than making everything about her and devoting all your time to her and the relationship.
When you adjust your approach, her feelings will automatically start to change as well, without her even realizing it.
If you know what you’re doing (i.e. you understand how to attract women on purpose and aren’t just doing whatever and hoping for the best), you can then build on those feelings and make her fall deeply in love with you this time around.
3. Don’t try to push for a relationship before you’ve hooked up with her again sexually
If your ex currently feels like you’re not her ideal man, then she’s not going to react well to you pushing for a relationship.
So, don’t pressure her for a relationship.
Instead, simply make interactions with you feel fun, easygoing and commitment free.
At the same time, focus on building her sexual feelings for you, so she at least wants to kiss and have sex, even though she may not want to get back into a relationship right away.
Let her see that if she kissed you or had sex with you, it wouldn’t result in you pleading with her to give you another chance.
Let her sense that you love her, want her and respect her, but you’re not pushing for anything.
Just focus on attracting her, building up sexual tension and then initiate kissing and sex.
Sex is important because it speeds up the process of getting a woman back by letting her experience a new and improved you.
When she does, she realizes that you’re no longer the same man and things really would be different with you this time around.
As a result, she then drops her guard and becomes more open to seeing where things go from there.
Of course, sex won’t fix your relationship problems with her, but it definitely does help to get things back on track.
The more you make her realize that you are the man she wants to be with in the long term (e.g. emotionally strong, ballsy, dependable, charming, a challenge for her to win over, ambitious, funny), the more she will want to take the next step and commit to being with you.
Don’t tell her that you are that man now; let her experience it.
She has to be able to sense it and see it for herself, rather than you trying to sell yourself to her.
Get her feeling attracted to you again and then guide her to a hug, kiss, sex and then back into a relationship.
If she asks, “So, does this mean we’re back together?” ou, “So, does this mean you want us to be back together?” you can simply say, “Let’s just see how things go. Neither of us need to commit to a relationship. Let’s just hang out and see what happens.”
4. Let her be the one who wants a relationship with you now
You can do that by being a challenge, which is what a woman like her is going to really want from a guy.
What does being a challenge to a woman mean?
It means, you need to make her feel like she has to be good to you, treat you well and work hard to impress you, or else you won’t be interested in her.
Think about it…
Most women make men feel that way.
So, there is nothing wrong with you taking on that role and being the challenge, rather than being the one who is working hard to impress her and hope she doesn’t leave you.
Unfortunately, a lot of men either don’t know about this, or they think it’s ‘wrong’ or ‘disrespectful’ to be a challenge, even though it’s how women get man wrapped around their little finger.
It’s not wrong to have a woman be totally in love with you and wanting to impress you.
In fact, women want to be in that position.
A lot of men don’t understand that or know about it and as a result, a guy will end up chasing after a woman in a relationship and sucking up to her, in the hope that she won’t leave him.
Yet, that gives a woman power over a man that she simply doesn’t want because it’s not a fulfilling experience for her.
She might pretend that she likes being in the position of power and enjoys it when a guy is very nice, sweet and agreeable, but in reality, she’s not going to respect him if he does whatever she wants just so he can spend time with her.
Remember: A woman wants to feel that her man is a catch, not like she’s doing him a favor by being with him.
If she feels that way, she is happy.
If she doesn’t, she is bored, unhappy and will be restless.
This is why, if you want to get your ex to genuinely feel respect, attraction and love for you this time around, avoid always being on your best behavior around her and never saying or doing anything to challenge her, even in a playful way.
You will be surprised to see how effective a bit of resistance from you can be.
Of course, be prepared for her to pretend to be upset about it though.
That’s just her testing to see if you really have grown a pair of balls with her, or if you’re just putting on an act and hoping she falls for it without checking to see if you are for real.
If you want her to respect you, it’s important that you level up for real.
5. Make her feel like she is losing a much better version of you
If you interact with your ex over the phone and in person and she notices that you’re now talking, thinking, acting and behaving in ways that she always wanted from you but never got, she’s naturally going to start feeling like she’s losing out by not being with you anymore.
For example: She may notices that…
- Even though you’re still loving, caring and attentive towards her, you no longer allow her to push you around and get away with creating unnecessary drama and being disrespectful towards you. You don’t sulk and complain about it. Instead, you calmly, assertively and confidently disagree, or let her know that she’s being disrespectful or unreasonable.
You’re happy and forward moving in your life without her. You want her back, you don’t need her back to feel good about yourself. As a result, you don’t act in needy, clingy or insecure ways anymore.
- You maintain your confidence no matter what she says or does (e.g. she tries to make you feel insecure by pretending that she doesn’t have feelings for you).
- You’re not afraid to use humor to change her mood from cold or bitchy to open and happy, rather than getting dragged into her fake drama, being timid in response her mood or losing control of your emotions and getting angry at her.
When she notices these kinds of changes in you, she’s going to feel that if she doesn’t at least give you another chance, she may be the one who regrets it later on.
As a result, she then wants to hang out with you more to see where things go.
4 Mistakes to Avoid When Trying to Get an Ex Woman Back Who Was Never Really Into You
1. Thinking that cutting off contact will make her care so much that she tries to get you back
If she was never really into you, why would she change her mind now that you’re not even around to spark any feelings for you?
Instead, she’s not going to care and will get on with finding another man who she can fall in love with (e.g. she will join an online dating site or use an app like Tinder, Bumble or Hinge, accept dates from guys in her life who are interested and have been waiting for her to become single, go out to clubs and parties to meet and flirt with men).
Eventually, she’s likely to meet a guy who can give her the kind of attraction experience she really wants (e.g. the guy is more of a challenge, he’s not insecure, he makes her want to impress him), which may cause her to open up and begin falling in love with him.
Then, by the time you notice that she’s not coming back to you, she will have been sleeping with the new guy and moving on.
Is that what you want?
If not, forget about ignoring her to hopefully make her want you.
Cutting off contact only works if a woman is still in love with her ex guy.
In pretty much every other case, the woman simply moves on.
2. Writing to her to tell her how much she means to you
That’s a bad idea for several reasons.
- She doesn’t have to read what you write to her and can just ignore you. As a result, it won’t make any difference to how she feels.
- If she doesn’t have feelings for you, hearing about your feelings for her isn’t going to change that. Instead, she’s likely going to see you as being selfish and too focused on your own wants, needs and feelings.
- If one of the things about you that prevented her from falling deeply in love with you was that you’re too emotionally sensitive, a letter telling her how much she means to you will further highlight that side of you to her and turn her off even more.
- When she can’t hear the tonality of your voice or see your body language, she may assume that you’re still the same guy she broke up with (e.g. insecure, needy, too nice, not masculine enough for her). She then doesn’t feel motivated to give you another chance.
Women only want and appreciate romantic gestures from men that they have feelings for. From all other men, romance is not wanted or welcomed.
So, don’t bother writing to her about your feelings.
What matters now are her feelings.
You have to interact with her, make her have some new feelings for you and then take it from there.
You can’t do that by hiding behind letters, texts, emails and so on.
You’ve got to interact with her in person, or at the very least on a phone or video call.
Don’t shy away from that.
3. Hoping that she will care if you build up your muscles, or wear better clothes
If you look better, she might compliment you and say you look good.
Yet, that doesn’t mean she will want you back.
What matters most to a woman is how a guy makes her feel when she’s interacting with him.
If he looks good, but she feels turned off by his insecurity, then she’s going to start looking at him and his appearance in a negative light.
She will then look at his shirt or muscles and he will look like he’s trying too hard, or as though it doesn’t suit him.
That all happens based on whether his behavior is making her feel attracted or not.
So, make sure that the number one thing you focus on is how to make her feel attracted to you when you talk to her and interact with her.
Without that, you’ve got nothing to offer her in terms of how she would feel with you if the relationship started again.
4. Hoping that her new relationships fail and she eventually comes back to you
Her new relationships might fail.
After all, she has a 100% failure rate so far when it comes to relationships.
Despite that, in almost all cases, a woman will keep moving forward (i.e. look for a new man) rather than go back to a relationship that left her feeling sexually and romantically unfulfilled.
So, if you want your ex back, don’t hope that she comes back to you due to having no other options.
Interact with her and let her sense that you are the best option for her, by attracting her in new and interesting ways that she wasn’t expecting from you.
Here are 4 of the most common reasons why a woman will do that to her boyfriend:
1. She didn’t want him to do something romantic for her because she was no longer in love with him
Romance is only appreciated and enjoyable for a woman, if she has feelings of respect, attraction and love for a guy.
When a woman is in love with a man, it feels great for her to be cared about him, given something nice or treated to something on her birthday, or any other day.
Yet, if those feelings aren’t there, she doesn’t want romantic gestures and isn’t going to like it when he’s showing her love and expecting her to show him love in return.
As a result, the idea of pretending to be impressed and excited by his romantic gestures on her birthday will feel stressful and even annoying to her.
She doesn’t want to have to act like she’s in love with him when she’s not and have to kiss him, hug him and seem very appreciative of whatever he gives her or does for her.
It will be all too fake for her and she just doesn’t want to feel that way on her birthday, when she could be feeling happy and being her real self around friends or family.
So, rather than waiting to break up with him at a later date, a woman will often just go through with it before her birthday to save herself all the unnecessary stress and unease.
However, that doesn’t mean all hope is lost for her ex boyfriend.
Feelings change all the time.
Think about it…
Your girlfriend went from not knowing you or caring about you before you met, to feeling attracted to you and beginning to like you when you met and then to falling in love with you.
She then went though a phase where she began to fall out of love, which resulted in her going through with a break up.
As you can see, her feelings have changed multiple times in the past and they can easily be changed again.
Women can and do fall back in love with an ex boyfriend.
Every day, it happens millions of times all over the world.
You can do it.
You can be one of the men who get their ex girlfriend back.
Another reason why a woman will break up with a boyfriend before her birthday is…
2. She didn’t want to have to fake being happy with him in front her friends and family
In most cases, when a woman is in love with a guy, she will be happy to let her friends and family see her together with her boyfriend.
She will feel proud of having a relationship that is working, with a man that she looks up to and respect.
She will feel complete and not have to worry about being seen as a lonely, single girl, or a girl who still hasn’t figured out how to make a relationship work.
So, her birthday is a happy, special and proud time for her, if she has a boyfriend that she loves.
On her birthday, a woman’s friends might ask, “What did he get you?” ou, “Is he doing something special for you later tonight?”
She then can show off her special gift from him or talk about his romantic plans for her.
Yet, when she’s lost touch with her feelings for boyfriend and is no longer in love, a woman will usually want to avoid putting on an act and looking happy and excited when she’s not.
Additionally, in most cases, a woman doesn’t want to lie to her family and friends about how happy and in love she is with him, only to then have to explain herself to them when she dumps him a few days or a week later.
She wants to keep her family and friends on her side, trusting in her and seeing her as a reliable, honest person.
One of the many reasons why, is that even though she will be breaking up with him, it’s not as if she’s not going to experience some emotional pain and feelings of loss.
Many women do struggle emotionally after a break up, even if they are sure about ending the relationship.
So, when a woman breaks up with him before her birthday, she wants to know that her family and friends will be there to support her and help her enjoy her birthday as a single woman.
As a result, she can have fun and enjoy herself with family and friends rather than pretending to be in love or happy with her boyfriend (when she’s not), or feeling upset and lonely because her friends and family don’t really want to support her through it and think that she needs to learn a lesson about being honest about her feelings.
That said, it doesn’t mean that her ex boyfriend no longer has a chance with her.
Remember: Feelings can and do change.
You can re-attract her and get another chance with her, if you are willing to approach the ex back process in a mature manner (i.e. don’t make the mistake of cutting off contact and expecting her to come running back to you. That rarely, if ever works and is an immature, native approach. The mature, effective approach is to quickly fix your issues/improve yourself over the next week and then have the courage to call her, arrange a catch up and then re-attract her and get her back).
Another reason why…
3. She was interested in another guy and wanted to hopefully hook up with him at her party
Sometimes, a woman will already have her eye on another guy that she’s secretly hoping to get into a relationship with.
So, inviting him to her party and making sure that she’s single can be a way of her hopefully getting what she wants.
If she’s single, she is then free to go crazy, flirt with her crush as much as possible on the night and if things work out, hook up with him sexually.
This is why, if you want your girlfriend back, you shouldn’t sit around hoping she will change her mind on her own.
If you wait too long to begin re-attracting her and making her feel sexually and romantically attracted to you again, it can make the process of getting her back more difficult for you (i.e. because she’s already hooked up with her crush and they’re now in a relationship).
You can still get her back of course, but there’s no need to make it more difficult by waiting to begin the re-attraction step of the ex back process.
So, take control of the situation today and begin making her feel the kind of emotions that she wants to feel with a guy (e.g. attracted, attracted, excited, turned on, aroused), so she won’t be able to stop herself from feeling drawn to you again.
When she experiences that, she will realizes that her feelings for you aren’t dead and that it would actually be interesting and exciting to give you another chance.
Yet, if you just wait and hope that she remains single and comes running back, you might end up feeling disappointed and heartbroken when you hear that she has been moving on without you.
4. She had been planning on breaking up with him for a while and her upcoming birthday gave her extra motivation to do it
Some people like to make New Year’s resolutions and start the new year with a clean slate.
However, others tend to use their birthday as a day that inspires them to feel motivated to follow through on goals, or go after what they really want in the coming year.
So, if a woman has been feeling unhappy in a relationship with her boyfriend, she might decide that she doesn’t want to begin the next year of her life with old baggage dragging her down.
As a result, she decides to just break up with him before her birthday.
It sucks that she did that to you, but don’t worry.
You can turn things around.
By changing your approach to attraction with her from now on, so she starts to feel drawn to you again in a new and good way.
Some of the ways you can do that are by…
- Becoming more confident and self-assured, rather than feeling insecure and unsure of yourself.
- Improving your ability to make her feel like a hot, sexy woman in your presence (by flirting with her, by being manly so she can feel girly in comparison to you), rather than turning her off by treating her like your buddy or friend. It takes courage to do that, but it works. Pretty much every you need to do in terms of re-attracting her will feel outside of your comfort zone initially. Yet, that’s just the point. You need to level up and attract her in new and interesting ways. You have to have the courage to do that.
- Using humor when she is being uptight and tense, rather than worrying that she will get angry at you for it. Don’t follow her mood and become timid in response to her negativity, tenseness or anger. Be confident, bold, strong and loving enough to get her to crack a smile and laugh, so she switches out of being in a bad mood, to feeling happier, more open and more attracted to you. Always remember that women are attracted to emotional strength in men. As long as you are being a good man to her, you’re not doing anything wrong by getting her to smile, laugh and get out of bad mood. She might say you are to stop you from being attractive to her, but you’re not doing anything wrong.
- Adding to your strengths and improving your weaknesses, rather than remaining the same and expecting her to just accept it.
- Creating a new relationship dynamic between you and her, where you treat her well and make her feel loved and appreciated, but also make her feel motivated to impress you and keep you happy, or else you will lose interest in her.
- Being more emotionally masculine in how you think, behave, talk and act, rather than being too nice and soft with her and allowing her to dominate you with her confident personality.
When you start making her feel sexually attracted to you again, it then becomes a lot harder for her to walk away from you for real because she risks regretting it later on.
As a result, she opens back up to talking to you over the phone and seeing you in person to see if you and her can work things out after all.
4 Mistakes to Avoid if You Want to Get Her Back
1. Buying her a great gift to hopefully make her feel guilty, or to warm back up to you
Your ex girlfriend may appreciate the gift, but it’s almost certainly not going to make her suddenly have feelings for you and want to get back together.
She may see the gift as a desperate attempt to ‘buy’ back her love as a form of manipulation (i.e. trying to make her feel bad for breaking up with such a nice, honorable and generous guy).
If she senses that’s your motive (even if she’s wrong), she will feels even more determined to remain broken up with you, because she doesn’t want to fall for your mind games.
Alternatively, she might see it as nice that you bought her a gift, but she knows the reality of the situation as well (i.e. she’s not going to be getting back into a relationship with a gift. It’s just an object or thing. You are the person she broke up with and no gift changes who you are, or how you make her feel when you interact with her).
This is why, the most important thing to focus on is your ability to attract her during interactions.
Nothing else really matters because the most important thing to her now is how she feels.
If she feels attracted to you, she will feel open to getting back with you.
If she feels turned off and you give her a gift, she’s almost certainly going to remain feeling turned off.
The gift is just an object or a thing. It’s not you.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Asking her why
Even though you might feel like you deserve to know why she broke up with you before her birthday, it’s not something she will want to honestly share with you.
She doesn’t want to give you clues on how to get her back, or potentially reveal her disloyal act that lead to the break up (i.e. liking another guy and leaving you so she could date him, inviting her crush to the party and hooking up with him).
If you ask her, she may give you a response, but in almost all cases, a woman won’t be honest about her reasons why.
So, when a guy is asking, “How could you do this to me? Why did you leave me like that?” in an emotional way where he clearly seems confused and hurt, it just highlights to her that he doesn’t know how to be the man that she wants without her guidance, input and direction.
Instead, he needs her help to help him become the kind of man that he should be to effectively attract her.
That makes her lose even more respect for him because it makes her look at him as a confused guy, who doesn’t understand women and what they want.
Women don’t want to take on the role of being a mentor to a guy, especially an ex.
As a result, she then doesn’t want anything more to do with him, because from her point of view, she’s just wasting her time with a guy who might never be the kind of man she wants and needs him to be.
So, don’t ask her why she left you.
Figure it out by continuing to learn from me here at this site.
I will teach you that and how to re-attract her, but you have to be willing to learn and do this right, otherwise you will almost certainly lose her.
Another mistake to avoid…
3. Sending her a romantic card expressing your love (if she is currently not in love with you)
Sending a romantic card, love letter or note might work in romantic movies or books (fake reality), but in the real world, when a woman has lost touch with her feelings for a guy, him being romantic and pouring his heart out to her doesn’t change her mind about being broken up.
Remember: Romance is only enjoyable to a woman if she has feelings for a man (i.e. she respects him, feels attracted to him and is either falling in love with him, or is in love with him).
Romance outside of that is not welcomed by women.
So, for your ex to want to get back together, the feelings have to be mutual or at least close to mutual between you and her.
It can’t just be about you loving her and wanting her back for your reasons.
Instead, she has to feel like she will be missing out on a great thing if she doesn’t get back with you.
That’s what motivates a woman to want to get back with a man and it does not come from being romantic.
It comes from reactivating her feelings by attracting her in new and interesting ways.
So, forget about the soppy cards and love letters because it won’t work.
4. Waiting around for her to change her mind and she then moves on without you
You might feel hurt that she left you and want to teach her a lesson, by not contacting her.
Yet, here’s the thing…
If your ex has disconnected with her feelings of respect, attraction and love for you, she’s not going to care if you don’t contact her.
She will simply move on.